Nursery wobble!!!

I know sending our babies to nursery is a nerve-wracking time for all parents but there's been a lot of incidents in nurseries coming up recently. It's panicking me. Im trying to calm myself down and think logically.
Has anyone gone to the nursery settling in days with a list of questions, especially around safety? What sorts of things have you asked if so?

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Hello lovely lady, what sort of incidents?
It is very stressful, I know!

Following as I feel the same 🥺

@Kate the unthinkable ones, I literally can't even bring myself to write it. They just keep coming up when im scrolling on social media! 🫠🫠🫠 i dont even watch the news because i know what im like! ive managed to calm myself down. There is so much trust involved in leaving your precious child with people isnt there. Just praying all will be well for everyone 🙏🏾

I literally went in with my two asked stuff like how they deal with incidences, do they have cameras, have they had any serious incidences and how did they handle it. I asked about staff turnover, looked at sleeping arrangements, etc etc. I went off the feeling of how I felt leaving and the one I went to just left me feeling amazing and I couldn't wait to put my then 1yo into it at 2. My son started the same one when he was 10 months. He's in the baby room and shes in the preschool room. I was still anxious with my second but again asked any questions at the time and my feeling was still good. They both love it there.

I also asked how many babies are their to staff member to get an idea of if they were at the limits or not. Then I read the latest ofsted report to see if there were things they hadn't disclosed.

We’re in the same boat and have just started nursery so I can go back to work. I’ve asked loads of questions around logistics, what we need to bring, when we can drop off/collect, how the day is recorded, and funding etc.
Totally normal to be worried about sending them to nursery and you’re not alone!
There’s also been a few incidents in the press lately about nurseries - I would just go on the vibe you get while you’re there and whether your child is happy there. (Obviously it will take a while for them to settle, but give it time and stick it out) think about what your baby is getting out of nursery.

https://www.daynurseries.co.uk/assets/files/daynurseries-checklist.pdf ive just found this. I think when we viewed it I was more focused on what they're doing and eating and the ratios but I think I'll ask more safety ones when we go for settling in

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