Breaking point

My baby just does not sleep.
Never has and I’ve fucking had enough.
She was EBF and fed every hour day and night so I’ve never even managed to have longer than a 20 min bath before she’s screaming for me.
She won’t sleep in the day longer than half hour and that’s after over a hours fight to get her to sleep with lot of tears (sometimes from both of us) even if it’s a contact nap, car or push chair she just hates to fucking sleep.
She goes to sleep every night and I think I’ve cracked it but no 30 mins later she’s up wide awake.
I’ve even switched to bottles and formula hoping to ‘fill her up’ but even then she’ll only take 3oz and be hungry again in a hour I’m drained. I’ve got the napper app and follow it like clock work. She’s tired but just does not sleep and if she does she’s awake 30 minutes later day and night.
& before everyone’s like it’s a leap, just a phase, regression she’s been like it since the day she was born nearly 6 months ago and it’s never got any better or worse but constantly shit.

Just needed to rant whilst I’m sat outside the bedroom listening to her scream she’s tired as her nap was due 1.5hrs ago and I just cannot get her to sleep.

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Oh gosh, have you spoken to the health visitor has she given any advice?

Sounds hard 😔 it is exhausting my lo night sleep is not great. has she been checked for a tongue tie at all? Maybe she is only taking small amounts of milk at a time?

Im so sorry...my baby is similar on the sleeping front but doesn't fight sleep like your little one does, I dont think id cope either.
Can you share the load a bit?
Chatgpt has really helped me sort wake windows etc out, im sure you've tried it but its good even for a rant

Other than her sleep she’s a super happy baby, so I almost feel bad for moaning but I’ve just had enough, I’ve also got a 3.5yr old and whenever he’s home I find I just have to spend most of the day asking him to be quiet and stay down stairs so I can get his sister to try sleep meaning he’s just sat there waiting for me constantly it’s awful.
I’ve spoken to health visitor who suggested to try extend her time between feeds and I’ve managed to get to 1.5hr but again she will then only take 3.5oz.
No tongue tie - nothing else to suggest why except she’s a ‘snacker’.
My husband try’s to tap in when he’s home but he’s got even shorter patience than me and ends up going with my 3.5yr old as he feels sorry for him (so do I!) it’s just draining.
Tried putting her in her own room - that was also a fail as she just screamed and screamed and ended up waking the whole house. Tried co sleeping and still didn’t work I’m at a loss..
I’ve been to drop in clinics with HV’s, chat GPT everything.

I feel you. In a very similar situation with my nearly 6 month old and I’ve also had enough of it. It’s exhausting.

I’ve also got a 3 year old at home and he’s always been such a good sleeper so this baby has humbled me.

I keep trying different things but nothing seems to work.

Slightly woo woo, but worked for many, have you tried a cranial osteopath for her? Sorry it's so hard right now. Xx

It is hard, for me it sounds like your baby has a stubborn personality, pot luck. My first born was exactly like that, terrible nights, only short contact naps or movement naps, lots of crying and screaming and madly heavy rocking before each sleep. It was rough, but luckily i had no other kid, so we got through it. And eventually, without any special reason, it started to get better....i guess she just started to mature.
So sadly, I have no advice, but plenty of sympathy, sending you strenght!

This sounds so hard. Mine is similar at night , she woke up on the hour every hour , but she does so seven naps. These are contact naps though so i can’t catch up on any sleep unfortunately

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11 month old only lasting half the night in his cot

Every night my 11 month old goes to bed in his cot fine. He does a fairly good 4-5 hour stretch and then wakes. Sometimes I’m lucky and he settles himself, sometimes I just need to lay him down or rub his back to settle him. But other times it’s a case of holding him until he falls into a deep sleep and transferring him.

Some nights I get lucky and he stays asleep for a few more hours but more often than not he wakes again 30-60 minutes later and we start the process again.

Then when we get to around 3/4am I’m so exhausted I take him into either my bed or my step sons bed to go sleep and the second he lays down he falls asleep! Even if I’ve not laid next to him yet. I then sleep next to him and get up at 05:30 and he continues to sleep all the way through until 7/8am

I used to think he wanted me, but the fact he can fall straight asleep without me even laying down next to him tells me differently. The only difference is the duvet/fleece blanket I put over him

How can I stop this need to go into a different bed part way through the night?

Does anyone else feel this kind of guilt?

I’m going back to work in a couple of weeks—just two days a week—and my 8½-month-old has started her settling-in sessions at nursery. Yesterday was her second one, and it honestly broke my heart.

She’s breastfed but will take expressed milk from a bottle (as long as it’s not from me). When I picked her up, she was absolutely screaming—she’d clearly been crying for a while. Her hair was damp with tears, her eyes were red, and she was so upset. She’d refused her bottle, even though the staff member trying to feed her was a breastfeeding mam herself, and she’d just woken up from a nap too.

She’ll only be going once a week, as my mother-in-law will have her on the other day I’m working. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m being cruel… I just don’t know if she’s going to settle. Once she gets really worked up, she’ll only calm down with someone she knows, and it took me a good 10 minutes to soothe her after I picked her up.

My mother-in-law has offered to have her both days, and I’ve said I’ll consider it if she doesn’t settle at nursery after a month—especially since my little one absolutely loves being with her.

But I keep questioning myself… am I making the right decision sending her to nursery at all? 🤍

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Hey all! my husband has recently started a new job which is night shifts 9pm-7am. He works 4 on and 4 off but has said he has to stick to same sleep pattern. Not waking until 3-4pm everyday? How are we coping with this and looking after baba by ourselves completely?

Parking drama, I want to know what people think!

My mum parks across my driveway sometimes (maybe up to twice a week) as there’s limited on street parking nearby.
Someone has been pushing her wing mirrors in, obviously in protest. Her car is older, and the wing mirror has been broken twice by doing this.

See my doodle. The guy doing this lives at the house at the top of the road’s turning circle. He walks the path of the purple line across the turning circle to do it to the car.

The road is not a busy road at all, it’s a short culdesac/dead end road. The pavement by my driveway is blocked by a bush and a lamppost (drawn in my pic lol), and any pedestrians would need to go on the road anyway to get past, even if her car wasn’t there. There are no obstructions on the pavement on the other side of the road.

Do you think what he is doing is fair??