Guilt about work

Only my second week back from mat leave and having to miss a big work event today as my baby is sick from a bug at daycare. While she's obviously the priority it's very hard not to feel guilty and anxious about how my colleagues will judge me for not being there. I had an awful mat leave experience at another job with my first where I was effectively forced out so I can't help feeling super vulnerable just for being a working mother.

Any pep talks to sooth my anxiety most welcome!

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Pregnancy test

Can someone confirm they can see the line too?🥹
We have been trying for baby number 2🥹

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I decided to give my fiancé the baby and finally take a nap being that I was on go for almost 24hrs straight! I’ve told him a NUMEROUS amount of times that he has to turn the a/c when he puts her in her bassinet bc the air goes directly over here

I just woke up to my baby crying and literally shivering to the point her lips were starting to turn purple. And he’s SLEEP!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

I want to punch him awake so bad. How do I bring it up to him without crashing out??

11 month old only lasting half the night in his cot

Every night my 11 month old goes to bed in his cot fine. He does a fairly good 4-5 hour stretch and then wakes. Sometimes I’m lucky and he settles himself, sometimes I just need to lay him down or rub his back to settle him. But other times it’s a case of holding him until he falls into a deep sleep and transferring him.

Some nights I get lucky and he stays asleep for a few more hours but more often than not he wakes again 30-60 minutes later and we start the process again.

Then when we get to around 3/4am I’m so exhausted I take him into either my bed or my step sons bed to go sleep and the second he lays down he falls asleep! Even if I’ve not laid next to him yet. I then sleep next to him and get up at 05:30 and he continues to sleep all the way through until 7/8am

I used to think he wanted me, but the fact he can fall straight asleep without me even laying down next to him tells me differently. The only difference is the duvet/fleece blanket I put over him

How can I stop this need to go into a different bed part way through the night?

Cradle cap

Looking for recommendations. He’s 6 months and I have just left it but it’s not getting better. I’ve seen coconut oil is best, can I just use any sort for him please?

(UK based products and hopefully something I can get from Superdrug as I’m doing an order 😂)

Does anyone else feel this kind of guilt?

I’m going back to work in a couple of weeks—just two days a week—and my 8½-month-old has started her settling-in sessions at nursery. Yesterday was her second one, and it honestly broke my heart.

She’s breastfed but will take expressed milk from a bottle (as long as it’s not from me). When I picked her up, she was absolutely screaming—she’d clearly been crying for a while. Her hair was damp with tears, her eyes were red, and she was so upset. She’d refused her bottle, even though the staff member trying to feed her was a breastfeeding mam herself, and she’d just woken up from a nap too.

She’ll only be going once a week, as my mother-in-law will have her on the other day I’m working. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m being cruel… I just don’t know if she’s going to settle. Once she gets really worked up, she’ll only calm down with someone she knows, and it took me a good 10 minutes to soothe her after I picked her up.

My mother-in-law has offered to have her both days, and I’ve said I’ll consider it if she doesn’t settle at nursery after a month—especially since my little one absolutely loves being with her.

But I keep questioning myself… am I making the right decision sending her to nursery at all? 🤍

38 week MW apt

Do they check your cervix? I’ve heard that it might happen but people that have told me haven’t had a baby for many years so unsure what to expect! What usually happens at the 38 week apt?