Posting for advice in some way, so husband and I have been together since 2020 and got married in 2023… He has cheated in the past, at least 6 different women, basically we have had issues with work schedules is how it started him on over nights me working days. That started the cheating, from there and me finding out resentment on my side started and then I just didn’t have any real interest in sex with my husband, boyfriend at the time… we tried working through things tried spicing stuff up with toys outfits the works, I don’t enjoy drinking unless we are in a social setting, so that didn’t help either… we still worked opposite schedules until about October of 2023 honestly, and I thought maybe it would get better… I got pregnant in march of 2024 and he had 2 different affairs I know of in 2024 while I was pregnant….and then in 2025 I believe he only flirted sent pix etc…. And then he’s slept with one woman this year…. I have a lot of issues now when it comes to wanting to engage sexually I’m ADHD and already have problems getting in the mood… he doesn’t understand that and basically says I am the reason he cheats and our marriage is like this because of me and my lack of sexual desire… at this point I’d rather read a romance book and be done… there’s more of course but that’s the long story short version 😅😅😅
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What advice could we give you beside leave that man before you catch something irreversible from him and his growing number of affairs….¿

I have to agree with Maya. This is so frequent that I feel like even to get him to change isn't possible. He clearly has no remorse about the cheating... Why would you want to be with someone like that?

Girl what? He cheated before you was married and you still married him 🥴🥴 I’d be less worried about having sex with that creature and more interested in finding a family lawyer and a therapist to get well away from it!

This sounds like an absolute misery. To do it once is one thing, the man has no respect for you. I wouldn’t touch him for fear of catching something let alone the resentment would make me feel disgusted just looking at him. I feel sad for you that you’re accepting this and staying with someone like this when you have your own struggles to deal with which he is making worse. I don’t think anyone here has much advice other than leave him, which I doubt after you’ve stayed through all of this, is something you’re going to do

It's not so easy to just say 'leave him' because you clearly love him to have stayed this long so feelings involved and with a kid involved it can be very difficult considering what the best option is for you child and for your marriage. if he can continue to do it to you then he has no guilt, otherwise he would have stopped after the first one and realised he could get away with it which is disgusting on his part. there are so many better people than that in the world and you dont deserve to be miserable and constantly doubting yourself. of course you wont want to have sex anymore when he does this because cheating lowers confidence 100% and the sooner you come to terms with he isnt stopping and isnt gonna change, the quicker you can find Mr. Right and be happier. life is so short and continuing a marriage with a man that is that desperate and unworthy of you is not the way to spend life. i hope you are okay because thats not an easy situation to navigate.my messages are always open x

To do that multiple times to you in general is awful. Let alone before marriage and also while pregnant. I’m not sure there is any positive advice to be given besides leave before you get a serious disease you can’t reverse.

I know it's hard to hear, but you basically have an open marriage if he keeps doing this and you're accepting him back each time. The fact that he blames you for it says that he feels his behaviour is justified and that he's essentially entitled to an arrangement. If that's not what you want, and perhaps you get to explore elsewhere too, then you need to leave this awful human being.

Hun genuinely why are you still with him?
You should have left after the First Lady he cheated on you with.
Sounds you like you work, got your own stuff going on.
Why settle for that?
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