Holidays and boundaries!

I mean your baby is still so young. Maybe you could say exactly that. "Due to baby being so young, we are staying home for the holiday. Feel free to stop by on these days and times, just give us a heads up!"

Girl!!! I’m still fighting! His family is so amazing about it! But mine-.- we are Eastern European so theres that. Everyone wants to hold her, everyone’s kids want to hold her. And no matter how much I tell them they just get butt hurt and still keep doing their their thing! Like this weekend I’m going to my sisters 50th birthday party and omg there will be 11 children under 10 and like 15 adults and I think imma loose it on them cause I already know whats coming

She is your child, and she is now your priority to protect, so always put her and your mental sanity first. She is so young, no immune system, and head is still wobbly, you don't want her being passed around, or getting sick. So just tell them you will see them at the next holiday and that right now she is too small to be with so many others (especially if there are school age kids there as well).

If you still want to go, then, do whichever feels best for you, where you know you will be given the space you need to take care of her!

I too come from a divorced family and my husband and I have very large families so I completely understand holidays being chaotic. Prior to having a child, we used to split some days where we would do 2 gatherings in one day which was A LOT and made for a long day. Since having our son, the commute is way too much for him to be doing that so what we started doing is doing one family per day per holiday. If two families were hosting on the same day, we would pick one & plan to attend the other family for the next holiday. So for example, we did my husband’s family at Christmas and we will be doing my family for Easter. I hope this makes sense!

I’m the stern one on all fronts. Me and my partner made it a point that I handle my side of the family he handles his. However I had to rip a few heads off on his side myself.. ANYWAYS just be clear about boundaries if you don’t want them being held let it be know “we’re not ready for people to hold her just yet” or you guys can be subtle and just baby wear her.
We have a rule - if people want to hold her just ask, the worst we can say is no.
People haven’t really held her and now she’s 1 🤷‍♀️

Well it’s a whole weekend, can’t you just divided up ? One day here one day there ? Maybe if easier organise something at your house ?
Or just tell them all no so none of them can get upset lol 😂

If I allowed them to hold my baby I’d look them square in the eye and say “ go wash your hands, no coughing, sneezing, no putting your face too close to hers, no touching her hands or lips, and no kissing the baby - no exceptions”

If I didn’t want them to hold my baby id say “ no it’s okay, she’s comfy with me “

That’s your baby ! Youre mama bear !
Don’t be to be assertive

And congratulations 🎉 baby is beautiful 🥹

I'm not going to lie, whilst baby is young is where I'm drawing the line and saying I'm not dragging baby around to a million places, everyone can come to us but I'm not going to spend half my time with baby in a car.

I would set a different time to visit with both families so you get to see everyone. That’s what we do with our twins. As far as boundaries go, at 7 weeks I wouldn’t let anyone hold the baby, only look. Our twins were in the NICU so we waited 3 months before letting people hold them.

If my baby was 7 weeks I would definitely be skipping out on Easter. I was just trying to survive at that point and not worried about pleasing other people. Side note we live out of state and all of our family has come to us for holidays since we have the only baby in the family. I’ve also kept it low key. No more than 4 visitors at a time.

They want to see your baby then THEY come to YOU. My parents are divorced but my mom never comes to the get-togethers if she knows my dad will be there but that’s a HER problem. My dad doesn’t care if she shows up or not. But since my mom does, she doesn’t come and she misses out on all of the memories. They’re grown-ass adults so they need to behave as such. If divorced parents cannot put their feelings aside for their grandchildren then it’s their issue, not yours.

Biggest thing I can advocate for you is to speak your need. Whatever that looks like in acceptance and release…

One piece of advice would be to start the "tradition" now. I know babe is still very young, and I am not saying go all out with said "tradition". However, if you make it clear to both sides of the family on what your tradition for your family is going to look like going forward; it'll be easier in the long run. Instead of trying to implement what you want your holidays to look like after everyone else has already gotten adjusted to something else