Need advice
So me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years and he has cheated on me before and he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our daughter. (This is his first child). Me and him will video call every night cause I'm in a family shelter and he is at his grandma's house. But I have a feeling he is cheating on me again and honestly idk what to do cause he will tell me that he wants to marry me and that he loves me but he seems very distant. And when I would mention it that he is acting different he will start a fight with me. I love him and I'm honestly scared to lose him cause he is my first non physically abusive relationship. What should I do
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I don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better. Why settle for crumbs when you can have the whole bread (the whole cookie, or however the saying goes lol)? The point being, don't settle for less when there's more love and respect that you deserve. Sometime we dismiss/excuse red flags for the sake of "love", forgetting and neglecting to honor ourselves, our values, and our needs.
The bar isn’t whether or not he’s physically abusive; the bar should be much higher than that.
What values does he have? He wants to marry you, yes, but is he ready to take up the responsibility of being a father and a husband? You should not ask him, you should see the readiness. Or else you will marry an immature person and struggle with being the father, mother, husband and wife. And he will just be there complacent
Emotionally abusive is just as bad as physically abusive. Would you like your daughter going through this with someone? That’s how you have to look at it!
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