Lazy Baby Dad

Our son is 7 months old, He still wakes up in the night for some milk but he never settles back down, My partner says he doesn’t hear him but can hear his alarm for work or hears if it’s for himself, We also have a 3 year old little girl which is very much a daddy’s girl but he’s constantly sat on his phone and pushes her out😩 At this moment in time I don’t even wanna be with him because of how he’s being with me n the kids and I just don’t know what to do because I genuinely can’t take no more😔 I can’t leave the kids with him because he messages and phones constantly asking how long I’m going to be he’s never fed our son, Rarely changed him, Doesn’t do anything g for any of them 😔 He’s just bought himself a brand new car and completely forgot he’s got 2 kids( it’s 3 door) but expect me to put them both in i honestly can’t take no more 😩

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Am I doing something wrong?

I went for brunch with a new mum friend, both our little boys are 7 months. My LO would not sit at and tbh he rarely does, he had just had a feed and nap, I also offered him a banana which he had half of and convinced him to play with multiple toys but he either wanted to bounce on my lap or for me to walk around with him and eventually got cranky/whingy. I wasn’t able to finish my food. The other LO was sitting calmly the whole time and chewing on his teether. I even offered my LO a teether. Am I doing something wrong, am I spoiling him by picking him up constantly if he’s not crying and just whinging 😅

Has the new government rules on screen time stressed anyone else out?

Screen time reliance was already stressing me but I'm home alone as many of us are...I have no village and a very full on and demanding boy. My son is 19 months and in a really hard phase whinging and clingy wise....we don't do iPads and tablets (unless I absolutely have to if he's throwing an absolute fit having a nappy change and I don't want shit all over the wall!)
We do however end up doing teletubbies and dancing fruits during "high stress times" of the day. Usually cooking or if he's having an awful meltdown...popping teletubbies on means he smiles and relaxes, and I can get our food cooked and the kitchen tidy.
In the evening we allow him another half hour whilst we make food if he's in a particularly demanding mood and wanting to be held the entire time. Then we switch off teletubbies and put something soft like quiz shows or comedy on for my partner and I and we play with our son at the same time. He usually zones the TV out if it's not his program.
I feel so guilty for every second of screen time now. By the time he's finally gone to bed at 9-10pm (he fights sleep like crazy) I just have to fall into bed myself. My partner can stay up watching his TV but I can't make it past 10 (proof that being a stay at home mum is harder than a regular job much!?)

Husbands attitude..

I’m unhappy with the way my partner acts with our son. So before we had kids he was the most chilled, fun loving person & I thought what a breath of fresh air compared to my ex who was an abusive narcissist!

However since we’ve bought a house and had our son (he’s 4) it’s like he can’t handle parenting.
His fuse has become short & the last few months he just seems to lose his temper at our son & me over the smallest things. I understand kids are frustrating and we all shout at times but he screams in his face and it really upsets our son & honestly it makes me so sad that he gets so angry over trivial things, often I have to step in & take over cos I’m worried he might smack him or something.

I’m a SAHM and so I’m with my son every day yet I can control myself. I’m more laid back (he’s my 2nd child) maybe cos I’ve been here before. I feel maybe as he was brought up with an Asian father who was quite strict it’s given him high expectations of expected behaviour?
I have spoken to him about how I’m not happy with it & that he should walk away but he just gets defensive and throws his dummy out the pram!
What’s your partner like with discipline? Do they shout and do you ever disagree with the way they are?

School

I know being a stay at home mom is meant to be staying at home with the kids. But do you ever consider sending them to school? Especially if you have multiples? Or do you just homeschool? I feel like I want to send my oldest to school and stay home with the baby. My oldest just turned 4. What should he be in (pre k or… ?) I’m not sure.

Would you travel 30 miles one way to take your children to school and nursery just to keep them happy to avoid distress with change?

I’m lost on what to do …

Any WFH moms with little/no childcare?

I start back to work from home in a little over a week. My LO will be almost 4 months then (16 weeks). What are your best tips and tricks to make things go smoothly for you and for baby?