Do children have a right to digital privacy…

even before they can consent?

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I used to work for social years ago, in a polite way my children are staying off social as long as possible ..

Yes kids should not be on social media imo and that includes being posted on their parents and grandparents social media. This is a sore subject for me because my mom could not accept that I didn’t want my child posted all over social media, my mom constantly brought it up and argued to the point of crying about it, and then I found out she was doing it anyway behind my back. I really don’t understand how posting on facebook is so important to people but that really just speaks to how addictive and unhealthy it is, and I won’t allow my sons privacy to be obstructed like that.

100%, why give them a digital footprint before they even understand what that means.

I don’t post my kids and I don’t want them online until they can consent at the bare minimum because of all the safety issues.

I think it depends on the context. I think some things should definatly be kept private. One of the benefits of seeing my daughter on a private fb preschool page was seeing her happy in her environment. When your child is pre verbal it makes life slightly challenging. At one point she couldn’t tell me who her best friend was neither could the school due to data protection however she could show me and I could understand what she had done that day.

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What’s wrong with me?

My marriage has been struggling for years now. I just had another baby after falling for the lies and promises of change from an absent husband and poor excuse of a father to my children.
I’m left alone with 3 children to manage the house, the kids the meals the cleaning the shopping the drop offs and everything in between. I go days without showering or having to hold my toilet with no support as I cannot leave a newborn with toddlers. I’ve made adjustments like a bouncer in the bathroom and chairs in every room so baby is just glued to my hip 24.7 if I’m lucky enough to have a shower it’s with my baby watching me usually screaming. I used to have hobbies, dreams. I’ve tried filing for divorce, it’s a long story but for right now I’m stuck where I am.
I have just 1 friend and other than my mother no other form of support. I look in the mirror and I don’t know who the person is staring back at me. I fill with anger and rage and I want to damage something. I’m the worse version of myself and feel like I’m failing my children just moving from one day to the next. I’m not the person that looks like they struggle. I’m the person everyone turns to for help and advice when in reality I’m falling apart at the seams. A fresh blow dry, a blazer and heels and a fake smile. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors
I don’t need advice or medication I guess I just wanted to get this off my chest.

Weening

I’m a chef by trade but never for a baby 😂 ok so I’ve been weening my daughter since 4 months old she’s had purées and has been smashing them since the first day, for her 6 month “half birthday” we made her a whole stake and she’s refused to touch the purées since, I ordered a baby cook book but it’s only got recipes for 10 months plus. Best solid foods to give my 6 month old? She won’t even eat the fruit purees anymore the stake has turned her savage 😂 thank you all! Xx

hobbies

what are your guys hobbies i literally have no interests at this point i just completely lost my sense of self does anyone else feel like this?

Need to vent

I’m sick to death of having to remind my partner to do things for me e.g wash the bottles/sterilise whilst I’m asleep as he works nights so when he gets in that’s one of his jobs but funnily enough I’ll wake the next morning to them still in the washing up bowl and all I’ll get when he wakes up is ‘I’m so sorry I forgot’
I just feel sometimes I’m overreacting over the smallest things but I do literally everything for him as well as look after our boy on my own 90% of the time.
He gets frustrated when he can’t get the baby to sleep and asks me to take over which I will always do but I don’t get that option I just have to deal with it?

Also I didn’t get anything for my first Mother’s Day lol and feel like I let him off easily but when these little things happen it just makes me think does he actually care about me?

Am I just being a hormonal pyscho?

Overstepping in-laws or am I crazy?

I live with my fiancés parents as my brother is severely autistic so we couldn’t stay there, we are both 20 for reference and are looking for the right house for us to buy. My in laws will come and take her (my baby) in the middle of night without telling us and don’t see a problem with it, when I go to find my baby I often find her grandad naked in bed with her doing skin to skin and it makes me feel sick. I’m sure I’m probably over reacting and it’s a nice thing but it makes me so uncomfortable and when I brought it up to my partner I was told to leave it. Unfortunately they seem to think MY baby is theirs and it’s really stressing me out. They both keep making comments awww looks she can’t tell who her proper parents are, and “ oh grandma is just as much of a mum to her as you are” and honestly I’m starting to go down a hole of post natal depression and I just want to go back home to my family.

Having second baby with a shitty husband

I have two children but my first child was from my previous relationship and my second child is from my shitty husband . I crave a third child so much but I’m torn between having the 3rd with him or leaving. Also been thinking so much of what people will say that I have three children with three different dads which I don’t want for my kids. He is a good dad though but shitty husband. What do I do?