Friendships in motherhood
Wondering if others are experiencing this too.
A group of us have been friends for 10 years or so. In our 30-40s. Now we all have kids or expecting, roughly the same age. We all live far from family. Seemed like the kids were going to grow up together. Be each others village. But no.
Parenting approaches are wildly different for us all, We judge each other, some silently and others very openly. The kids don't get on and I don't want to force my daughter into a friendship where someone is just nasty to her. There is a lot of competition which is draining my energy - whose kid is a good eater, whose kid has more activities, who spends more time with their kids and go on more expensive holidays, an so on. I continued to work, they tell me I am missing on the best years. I now can afford to stay home (second kid and other circumstances changed), they told me I will hate being a stay at home mum - "it's not as easy as it looks".
I have decided to distance myself as it is totally toxic environment and I don't need these friendships, but is this common? I feel like I am grieving relationships I never even had in the first place if that makes sense.
7 weeks pregnant and beyond depressed.
hey im julissa, i currently have a 10 year old and a 5 year old, I stopped dating men roughly after my son father, (5 years ago) and been with a woman every since. Recently my girlfriend and i had broke up requiring me to move from ATL back home to NY. I enjoyed a fun night out since i didnt have my son. Upon getting home, completely discombobulated and disoriented my mom suggest i ride with her to pick up my son from his father. Although i didnt want to, i was carelessly out of it and wasnt gonna be the one driving figured id go to sleep in the car. Upon getting there my mom tells me to go retrieve my son, again im not even in my right state don’t even remember how i got out the car. Long story short, upon me going inside trying to gather my son my mom pulls off. Im really out of it so I sat on the couch and to my now knowledge dozed off. LONG STORY SHORT weeks go by and no period but im not really thinking anything just February was a short month maybe its late. To my surprise I found out i was pregnant. My son’s father literally took advantage of me in a vulnerable moment. Pulls my pants down, ejaculates inside me, then when I tell him like hey? wtf im pregnant he’s all scared and tryna tell me to get a abortion? But im the one who has to answer to God, you took advantage of me while I was out of my clear state then wanna pressure me to kill a baby. Not to mention my girlfriend hates me now and I just feel so alone over something I didn’t do or wanted I already had 1 abortion after my son and i still feel like God is disappointed in me because of that, So i tread getting another one. Plus it took an emotional toll on me for years I still cry when i to k about what i have done. I just don’t know what to do
