Just venting

I’m just venting. I got married on the 31 of December 2025. I only did it because I wanted my child to have a two parent house hold. The problem I’m having is I don’t trust my partner. He’s a composer cheater in my eyes. He believe that all men cheat. And all women do is cheat but hid it well. It’s just temptation. It just makes me sad because at one point I really did love him. But I felt like I should had left when he cheated the first time,when I told him I was pregnant. I haven’t left yet hoping he will change. As a 30 year old man that still has a child mindset. It’s so much more. I’m just tired. Positive note, Happy 2 months to my little love!!!

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He thinks ALL men and woman cheat?
Bold claim my guy, to attempt to “defend” being a disrespectful child of a man. I have never once felt the “temptation” to cheat on my husband.
I’m sorry hun 😞 happy 2 months to your little squish! 💕

You can try couples therapy.

As much as we would all love for a two parent household. You have to do what’s best for not only your kid/kids but for you as well. Your child will know that mommy and daddy loves them but girl you have to be happy. You can’t be the best mommy if you aren’t happy. As well as you never know, he may be in the way of you finding the man that will actually love YOU! A two parent household is nice with the biological parents but what if you were meant to be with someone else that will love you and your child/children like their own.

He probably will never change if that's his mentality now. There's only so much you can take. Wanting a 2 parent home is not a good reason to get married especially if you know your man is a cheater because you're gonna end up separating anyway

Prayer changes things, only God knows the heart of a man, whether he will change or not. I’ve been in your shoes, it’s easier said than done to leave that situation and we always want to do what’s best for the kids, but like said previously a mentally stable and happy mom/parent is what’s best for the kids. Idk know your faith nor am I pushing it on you but Jesus will lead you to the peace and love that you deserve. Happy two months to your lo!💕✨🙏🏾

Having a two parent household is only good if it’s a healthy, safe relationship. Otherwise it just does harm. I hope you’re in a better place soon, happy two months to your baby

Also all people don’t cheat and the fact that his mindset is like that is sick

Mmhmm same when your married husband says “sometimes I regret being with you”

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Whelp

Well yesterday was my last straw... I woke up in the middle of the night to him telling our TWO MONTH OLD daughter to “shut the fuck up” because she was crying. I had barely gotten two hours of sleep myself so I got up and took her.

Later that morning I asked him to take her so I could get some sleep. He did but then crawled into bed and laid her between us. I rolled over because I was exhausted and he took her to the couch and said “Mom doesn't care.”

I rolled over looked at him and told him I wanted a divorce. I'm tired of being treated the way I am and I'm tired of putting up with it. And then he told ME to get out.

Soooo now I'm single momming it with my two month old daughter and living on my sister's couch. What a fucking time to be alive. 🙃

Anybody else have family around them but it’s like what’s the point?

I just need to get this off my chest. I bought dinner tonight for my family (siblings and mom) (*my husband is out of the country rn so it’s just me and my kids 🥺*) I have 2 under 2 (a 2 month old) and everyone’s eating except me because I’m changing a diaper. While I’m changing my 1 YO diaper my 2 month old starts screaming his head off in the bouncer. Nobody, NOBODY got up and picked my baby up KNOWING my hands were full. I almost cried in front of everyone. I didn’t even eat because of how pissed I was. After I finished changing the diaper, I picked my screaming 2 month old baby up and fed him and as SOON as he unlatched I gathered my 3 kids and got the hell out of there. Am I being too sensitive? There were 5 adults there, FIVE! 3 siblings, an in-law and my mother. Not one bothered to pick my screaming baby up 😭😭😭💔💔💔 I feel so alone. I feel like no one cares about me or how much I’m struggling right now.

Quiet

My partner,my youngest's dad, has been silent most of today and I have been stressed most of today because I feel like the silence is him talking to the woman he said he stopped talking to. He hasn't shown me so I can't say I fully believe him because he's lied 1 too many times. And I've told him I need to see for myself but he just gets quiet and I swear he thinks I'll just drop it if he changes the subject. I told him I need reassurance for him to show me but he acts like he doesn't hear me or if he does hear me he says I know with a soft tone but then does nothing. I'm legit so confused with him,he confuses me and my migraines are back to full capacity I feel like I never know if hes really for me or not...

Is it normal to feel this way?

We had our second gorgeous boy on the 6th of October and I’m really feeling like the ‘main parent’. I absolutely adore being a mum to my two and my partner is great. The only thing is that our 3 year old is very attached to me, especially in the night if he wakes. For example, he woke last night and my partner went to his room to see him and he screams for me. Obviously I hate to hear it so I go in and my partner is with our newborn. He doesn’t even try and say he will sort it and then complains that our 3 year old only wants me. He didn’t go to sleep in his bed and I was with him for over an hour. Meanwhile my partner was with our newborn struggling to get him to settle because he wanted breastmilk. So I went up with my toddler who slept in the bed with me. My partner took our newborn downstairs to sleep on the sofa/moses basket for baby. Again, he didn’t settle because he wanted me. I just feel like I can’t win! I wish my partner would just be able to soothe our toddler but he doesn’t try hard enough and I can’t tell him that! He blames it on the fact that I breastfed him until he was 2.5 🙄 not the fact that he doesn’t actually try and soothe him when he screams for me. Anyway, my partner currently had an hour to sleep in without any children while I brought both downstairs, settled the baby and got breakfast for our toddler. 😴 sorry long rant but, is anyone else with 2 feeling this way?!

Toddler doesn’t listen

My son is 2 years old and omg his behavior has gotten worse. People think I don’t discipline him but I do he just doesn’t listen to me. I tell him to clean up and he’ll play around and do one at a time or moves it slowly in the box or throw them. I put him in timeout and that doesn’t do anything. He’s jumping around acting crazy during bed time and we tell him relax and lay down and it goes right over him. Don’t get me wrong we’ve tried spanking in the butt not too hard trust me but he just laughs and says to spank him 😅 he was at his grandparents house and they told us he wasn’t listening and throwing dirt at his gma but she just laughed and said he’s a baby. I don’t know what to do anymore or if it’s a phase or is it screen time that’s doing this what could be it?? Honestly it’s not just me in my household and he has many people around him could it be that he doesn’t take me serious or too many people disciplining in different ways??

We’re having trouble with tv addiction.

Any ideas on what tangible things I can do to help my child? Thanks