Husband is turning incredibly misogynistic

“I’ve learned my place, and guess what? It’s not next to, or even in the same room as your new personalities ass. Lemme know if these divorce papers seem dramatic”

What a fucking asshole. I’m so sorry some POS soiled your partner and that he was so… lost and susceptible to said ranting and podcasts. Those men are GROSSSSSSSS. He should read the comments for 10 minutes.
I hope he thinks it’s worth loosing his entire life over 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Asking for an open relationship because “men aren’t meant to be loyal” is just… sad. He already has checked out of respecting you as a partner as well tbh, if that’s where is running with those videos

This is all such textbook manosphere bullshit, and I'm sorry it happened to you and that you weren't able to get through to him. I am glad that at the end of this you were able to shut him down and get your girls away from that toxic influence. The women who do sleep with these men are so brainwashed, and often by their own families, your girls could easily have gone that way, and thank God you were able to put a stop to it.

Guess he's about to find out why the manosphere and incel communities are less of a Venn diagram and more a full circle. 🤷

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this, and to be very honest this is NOT the man you married and not the man you want raising your girls, because his views are disgusting. Not sure if you want to go down the counseling route, but he definitely needs some sort of therapy. I'm all about prioritizing your mental health and getting rid of the toxicity in your life, and he definitely shouldn't be around you if he is causing you this much distress. I know you have kids and divorce isn't easy, but I truly believe you are better off without him and he will feel the huge hole you leave if and when you do decide to get rid of him. But please, this man is not worth keeping around unless he really decides to change back to what he was before. Even then though, the damage is done. Feel free to DM if you need to talk to someone!

Wooow. That's so sad. Sounds like he turned into an awful adult. I'm very sorry. Yes please contact a lawyer and take his daughter away from him. Sadly he could be a terrible influence and actually even a danger with them and with you. Please run far away from him

Yeah, that wouldn't be my husband anymore if he stopped respecting me simply because I'm a woman.
Edit: I especially wouldn't want him around my daughter. Just imagine the low self worth hearing those awful things will trigger for her. Parents language becomes a child's inner voice. Leave for your child's sake.

Definitely not fit to raise girls. I'm sorry. Best thing to do is leave and show him you don't need a man. I doubt he actually believes you'll leave seeing that he thinks your being "dramatic", prove him wrong. He's definitely already has plans to cheat.

I’m so sorry. I’ve been there with my ex husband - COVID and the first Trump administration turned him into someone I barely recognized and couldn’t stand to be around. When I heard some of these beliefs being parroted by my then 7 year old, I knew I had to go

Something very similar happened to me in my relationship and it caused a ton of destruction. It was Andrew Tate bull shit. His videos convinced my spouse that my worth was reduced to a nanny, chef, and prostitute and that my spouse was a walking bank account that I leached off of.

It was horrible. Fuck Andrew Tate.

Googling "manosphere" or Andrew Tate will tell you all you need to know. They all have very similar views. Their influence is centered around being alpha males to attract women (though they will say it's not for women, it's 100% to get laid), they relegate women to housemaids and free childcare, say that women actually want to be controlled by a strong man, and promote one-sided open relationships and Get Rich Quick schemes. It's all for money, because being controversial gets them views and notoriety. It's sick that so many men are buying into it.

Though I will say that the men being radicalized speaks to a lack of attention to men's mental health, which is often ignored. These alpha types prey on men who are depressed, who are feeling the pressure of life, and who are down on themselves. In order to address the manosphere problem, we have to first recognize the mental health crisis men are facing, acknowledge it, and do something about it.

it’s a VIRUS 🦠

If child care is such a woman’s job tell him that working and providing is a man’s job and you’ll be quitting work and he can pick up extra work to provide fully for you 🤪 but seriously this is a scary slippery slope and to say women are only good for cooking and sucking dick is absolutely vile 🤮 well done for reacting how you did. He needs to respect and honour you and appreciate the hard work and efforts you put into your family

Absolutely vile. Get far away now. Be careful how you handle your next steps and gather evidence about his views. I don't like the sentence he said about 'putting you in your place'. That sounds like a threat, bordering on abusive. Get some recordings of these conversations if you can. They will help in a custody arrangement.

my husband is the same. the other day.. i was sick and had runny nose and was on my period and needed to change my pad. so i asked him to watch our toddler for max. 1min so i can pee and change my pad. our eldest toddler was in daycare at that time. he was just sitting on sofa on his phone so he told me yess go go i got this dont worry , so i went to the bathroom. the moment i sat down, he screamed my name and yells at me *our toddler's name* JUST FELL DOWN THE STAIRS!!!! i didnt even say anything. i ran downstairs (only 6 small steps but still!) , grabbed her and stopped the crying and put on my new pad in the living room. he's my first love and everything.. im married to my first so