Gifted toddler - how to proceed?
Our son is 2.5 and everyone has been telling me that he's extremely gifted and that school will be a challenge because he'll be so bored. He can currently:
-Read independently, and knows how to sound out any unfamiliar words
-Count to 50 without help, 100 with help
-identify all basic colors and some niche ones like cyan, magenta
-write his name
-speak in full, descriptive sentences (he is a CHATTERBOX and a total social butterfly, no stranger danger here 😩)
-use the potty independently
However, he's still a toddler. He tantrums, he makes toddler decisions lol, he struggles with big feelings etc.
He is with me (or my mom) 24/7. He's never been to daycare. My question is, how essential is a formal school environment before 5? Should I continue to "homeschool" until kindergarten? Should I seek a Montessori or similar program to challenge him? Any guidance is helpful! He is currently the only child but I am trying for another.
Losing the will to live..
I’ve had one of those day.. I’m a solo mom of 2 boys.. my 3 year old has been chaos all day.. every half an hour sounds like..,
‘no, you’re making my bed wrong.. no, I don’t like those potatoes, I want different ones.. no, I want more, I want your potatoes too.. no, you’re a naughty mummy.. no, I want to go somewhere fun.. no, you cut my food wrong’
I literally can’t cope and I’m sickened by my sons behavior so much that I can’t even eat the little dinner that I have seeing as he cried about his own dinner and took half of mine. I’m so overstimulated, overwhelmed and tired of everyday being a mental race of all the things I have to do..
It’s my birthday in 2 days and the only thing I seemingly can do is something to entertain my son but he’s so naughty I don’t even want to take him out😞
Husband rant!
I just wanted to get others thoughts on my current situation. My husband has been out of work for 18 months and has just accepted a role that he’s starting next week. We have a 5 month old and 4 year old and the baby does not sleep at all. The sleep deprivation is seriously hard and my first didn’t sleep until a few months before our baby was born so it’s been tough! He’s now just assuming that I’m going to do all the nursery drop offs and pick ups from next week and just mentioned casually that his job finishes at 6pm and the office is 90 mins away so will mean I need to do both girls bedtimes every night. He initially said it would be one day in the office but now says it will be more like three days. He also wants to be able to go to football one night and touch rugby another. Our baby doesn’t nap in her bassinet so I get no rest time during the day. I’m angry at him for not even talking to me about this transition and how it’s going to go, he’s just waited for me to ask questions but every response has an undertone of “of course you’ll need to do all the childcare - why are you even asking”. I feel like I may actually go insane without any help or sleep (he currently gives me an hour in the morning to nap which also has caused resentment given he’s not been working - he acts like it’s a favour to do more than that). Evenings are a nightmare with the 5 month old waking every 10-20 minutes until she properly settles, which could be 8pm or it could be midnight. This makes it very difficult to put the 4 year old to bed who then has been having night terrors and can only be comforted by mummy. The baby then wakes 6-8 times in the night and is ebf so I probably get 2 - 5 hours of sleep a night (but very broken).
I think I’ve just been getting more and more angry at how much I am sacrificing, just having a shower is a luxury right now, and yet he doesn’t think twice about having an evening to play football. I love my daughters so much but I feel like I can’t give them what they need because I’m spread so thin and so exhausted all the time. I know this won’t be forever and I’m planning some gentle sleep training in a month, but my feelings of resentment towards him may last a lot longer!
