My daughter will be turning 3 in October. When should I start looking at schools & what's the process?
I find the thought of it all very overwhelming 😬 plus I don't want to come to terms yet that my baby will be going to school 🥹ðŸ˜ðŸ˜‚
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For reception or nursery?
For reception (England) you don't apply until the November before they are due to start school.
For your little one that won't be until November 2027 for her to start in September 2028.
For nursery you book viewings and apply directly with them.

I had to apply on my local Council website. This might be the same for you if you are based in England.

I am sorry I read 'looking at schools' and thouhht you meant literally looking 🤣🤣
I rwalise you prob meant applying.
Schools are council website , nurseries can be eithee council or directly . We live on the border of 2 and they were both different application process for nurseries.
For schools, if we apply through one town, we get 3 school choices , the other we get 5 choices

Wraparound care is breakfast club and after school club
You can keep her at a childminder until school or she will qualify for school nursery after the term she turns 3 which isn't compulsary - it's ylur choice
I really just asked about wraparound times and costs as it's crucial for usboth going to work . Also how far in advance to book - some are more flexible than others.
I wanted to kmow reading schemes and whole school reading approach through to y6
Homework - what is expected. I don't want all on screen stuff. I want time to play and relax with my child too. That's so important for their brains
Their values - I didn't really ask schools this - they shone or they didn't through how they spoke
How likely he is to get 30 hours. We need 30 or will need to keep him in his private nursery
I think if you don't have questions just how it feels and a quick read of the ofsted report. You don't HAVE to go see the schools eitger. Realistically, you haven't got THAT much choice as a parent

Applications opened October last year for my area, and already closed last month. I think different counties must vary in application dates. It was just a form online to fill in, then some playgroup sessions to get chance to know the school

Your local Family Hubs may be able to support you in findibg some information out too and guiding you in the right direction x

Check your council website, I know in my county we have applied and got the place for reception last year!! But for the county we’re moving to the applications for reception 2026 closed November 2025, so it’s definitely worth checking.
In terms of what school to chose, go with gut feeling, but also what outdoor provisions they have, are there kids actually outside even on a not so nice day, what do they do for PE, extra curricular stuff like choir or drama or music etc, do the kids seem happy when you go see.
Very important for us was the transition between reception and yr 1 and a lot of schools we visited went from play based still in reception and yr 1 was straight to desks with very little room to roam around, which is super important in my opinion at merely 5 yrs old. We also asked about how do they involve the kids in leadership, initiative etc but also what provisions they have for kids who either have any kids of neurodiversity or learning difficulties or even just slower.
I've just come home from work only to find out my mum has been giving my 13 month old son Maynards wine gums🫪
My son ran up to me so I picked him up and he started crying and pointing so I followed where he was pointing which was my mum's bag, he reached in and grabbed the packet and then started screaming because I told him no. She said I've only been giving him smaller pieces! So!?? Now my son's having a meltdown....
Told her off. She said she won't do it again. Do I trust her? No😅
It's hard parenting our parents.
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I can’t believe I’m writing this but here’s the story - my boyf said he’s invited his mum over this morning as he wants to see her and she wants to see our son who’s now 10 months.
I said cool , I’m recovering from a cold and said he’ll look after me today the best as he could. Which was nice to hear.
Anyway. I didn’t think much of her visit I just got on with my day , rested a bit more and did the never ending laundry after our trip away. I was in and out the kitchen chatting a bit but very low energy.
She then decided to leave at 3:30 but , my boyfriend keeps saying you don’t have to leave if you don’t want to. She said no it’s fine and the starts to cry!!
I could hear her saying no it’s fine please don’t worry I should go. I didn’t know if I should get involved so I just said bye and left them to talk.
When she’s left I’m not having an explosive argument with my BF because it was my fault , she didn’t feel welcomed and felt like she had to leave. I’m here shouting back at him couldn’t believe what I’m hearing. And just baffled with the whole situation.
I text her saying if there as something she wanted to talk about and here she is essay texting me that she knows when she’s not welcomed.
Myself and my bf are not speaking after such an argument , huge tension in the hosue and it’s all her fault. I have no words and I don’t know what to do.

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Hello my partner has managed to get us into a lot of debt to the point we don't have the money to pay for bills and food etc. Obviously with baby arriving very soon as you can imagine we are very stressed to be in this horrible situation. I am in tears everyday, my eldest birthday is soon and I havent got him anything yet as cant afford it. I am super fed up and having horrible thoughts which I shouldn't be as i should be so excited this baby is coming but all I can think about it money troubles 😪 my partner has said about writing off the debt which will mean it will leave him with bad credit and we are renting as cant afford a mortgage but going forward I feel like its not the best decision? Can anyone advise please
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How many meals a day is your baby having?
I got criticised for my little girl having 2 meals and 4 bottles a day telling me I’m not giving her enough.
My daughters has breakfast and dinner daily

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Hi everyone 👋 What are you giving your 12 month olds for snacks? I don’t know why, but my daughter is starting to chuck food on the floor and has got picky in the last couple of weeks. Things she loved, she doesn’t anymore and I’m struggling for ideas!!

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(From UK), please recommend flight snacks. We have a four hour flight to Antalya on Friday with a 18month old.

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