Debt and stress
Hello my partner has managed to get us into a lot of debt to the point we don't have the money to pay for bills and food etc. Obviously with baby arriving very soon as you can imagine we are very stressed to be in this horrible situation. I am in tears everyday, my eldest birthday is soon and I havent got him anything yet as cant afford it. I am super fed up and having horrible thoughts which I shouldn't be as i should be so excited this baby is coming but all I can think about it money troubles šŖ my partner has said about writing off the debt which will mean it will leave him with bad credit and we are renting as cant afford a mortgage but going forward I feel like its not the best decision? Can anyone advise please
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Speak to StepChange. They can advise you on the best possible solution for you 0800 138 1111. It feels like a big move but I promise youāll feel lighter once itās done x
Sorry to hear youāre going thru this! If itās a lot of debt that youāre having to pay back monthly, Iāll suggest looking into payplan plusā¦ they will access your situation and what they do is combine all your debt into one big payment if that makes sense? they will access your affordability, your expenditure and stuff and tell you what they think is best. feel free to pop me a message if youād like ! xx
Hey send me a message I literally just went through this because my partner had racked up so much but we have it under control now promise itās not for some silly way to make money itās how we actually got out payments down by Ā£600 pounds a month x
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