Is it normal for people to think about divorce and question marriage

Marriage is not always roses. If he understands this all, ur questions will be answered . If anyone goes into marriage thinking they gonna have a perfect marriage with no argument or little quarrel, then i m sorry to say , you re not ready for marriage . That is why in the vows ,they say FOR BETTER FOR WORSE... there is no perfect marriage anywhere even if he decides to divorce u and get someone else.

I think it’s normal to feel like this on occasions when you have small children, me and my husband have gone through roigh patches however he has fairly good communication so we always resolve. I’ve been with an avoidant and Jesus Christ it was hard work. I’d probably recommend going counseling or something similar as from experience it’s so hard to move forward with issues with an avoidant without help

I am an avoidant myself, and I do the same after every intense argument. I literally think that this relationship is doomed, I regret getting together with this person and that it was a mistake and that it will never change. I start planning my practical exit starting from paperwork & splitting assets to how I am going to move out being pregnant and raise the baby on my own etc. It helps me calm down as if I am actually taking steps towards the only solution seemingly available to my dysregulated nervous system at the time. It’s an automatic neural pathway that activates as part of the avoidance coping mechanism - we simply want to run from the problem so that we don’t have to experience it! Once the nervous system calms down, I don’t have those negative catastrophising thoughts anymore, I don’t want to move out and things are fine again. It’s part of the flight or fight response. Clearly this is the flight option - quite basic if you look at it this way 😅