My manās constant comments about my postpartum body got my head f**ked up. At 24 yo I just had my second son in June 16 and am already down from 150 to 118 pounds and Iām proud of thatā¦but my man (whoās very into fitness) is constantly telling me to go to the gym or sending me workout videos grabbing my tummy fat, whenever the babyās relaxing he tells me to do squats or sit ups and even sending me A.I pictures of my body edited to what āit could beā he doesnāt see how much it messes with me even tho I say thatās not nice to say. Iāve been going to the gym 3x a week the last 2 weeks and a 2 mile walk daily with the kids sense 6 weeks pp like Iām trying but sometimes Iām just so tired⦠Iāve always been a very petite person and I know this might sound stupid but I feel rly anxious to just try and get back to how I was. Idk what to say to him because at the end of the day we want the same thing I just want to look in the mirror and pretty againš¤¦š»āāļø
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Hey so heās a piece of shit!! And itās sad you didnāt realize this before you had them kids. He doesnāt deserve you.. heās making fun of your body after you told him itās mean. Which it is. He should be respecting you and lifting your spirit up and telling you that ITS OKAY to not have a perfect body especially after 2 kids!!!

Girllll please tear his ass up!!! This is wild. He should be admiring your body for the incredible thing it just did. You created life and carried his baby. My man tells me he loves my body more because of the son I gave him. He sounds like an ass and I am so sorry you have to put up with that!! You deserve so so much more. There is no rush to ābounce backā. You are healing

Any man who comments on a womanās body before, during or after pregnancy can get fucked. X
Right So The Guy Iām having a Baby for is Eritrean šŖš· & My baby is going too be Jamaican & Ethiopian. Heās been here for 10 years now Still A Dummy so too say Iām over it He canāt Bring any new ideas, Knowledge or Information too me He doesnāt do Research , Writing Just watching Bullshit in his own country But You came too a Country & Your Sitting Around doing nothing Nor Adapting How London Lads Move. Researching Jobs , Job Descriptions Itās Frustrating cause I bring the Energy & Vibes & Iām Over it. I had too Punch him in the face bc he snapped at me just for telling him look behind us at that Guy that just pulled up in a Car Right Behind me⦠saying āI donāt want too lookā ??? Just Insecure. He does nothing Doesnāt Cook , doesnāt Gym. Show off his Skills NOTHINGGG. I donāt need him too Be there. I can 100% look after my Baby My Self.

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How do you get the spark back?! All I see is people going away for the night with their partner or having quality time together, but we canāt do that, we have no one to look after them. Other than nursery we have no other childcare what so ever. We feel like lodgers and desperately need to get the spark back, has anyone else been in this position and what did you do?!
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Is anyone else beyond exhausted with everything and everyone?
Iām a single mom, once again, except now me and BD live together (FM-healing).
I work full time as a receptionist at a post acute rehab for seniors, which should be the easiest thing in my life, but is actually the absolute worse, because the nurses are miserable and rude, so are the patients, and I am the punching bag.
I decided this year that I was going to sign back up for school, so now Iām in an accelerated program that feels like hell. Not to mention that I decided to sign myself up for the board, because I thought it would be a chance for me to make friends and be around like-minded go-getters, just to be the person who carries everyoneās weight.
I never get to see my baby, except for at night time, and by then I am emotionally and physically exhausted from the day that the last thing I want to do is sit on the floor and play cars with him, which makes me feel like the worse mom ever. Did I mention, Iām still in love with his dad?
Ten, Sixteen, and Twenty-five year old me dreamed of this life for so long, but never knew this is what I was asking for. Sometimes I wish I could just disappear, and sometimes I wonder if anyone would even notice.

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Devastated newly single mom. Trying to cope with this sudden change. Was a sahm and my husband is now with another woman after us trying for a long time to work out our marriage. He lied and cheated and hid so many things and even cheated before we were married and I didnāt know til years later he admitted it. I still tried to work on it through our church support system and pastor and it ended up all worse when it became more complicated and we had to physically separate he found another woman within a month and is with her now. I am having no contact with him now but just last month was talking to him daily. And still trying to work. He told me he had slept with her and he wanted to and was no apologetic or remorseful. We are dealing with a difficult divorce and custody issues now too. Iām alone with my daughter and not much family around. Itās killing me everyday I cry so hard and am barely coping.
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My manās constant comments about my postpartum body got my head f**ked up. At 24 yo I just had my second son in June 16 and am already down from 150 to 118 pounds and Iām proud of thatā¦but my man (whoās very into fitness) is constantly telling me to go to the gym or sending me workout videos grabbing my tummy fat, whenever the babyās relaxing he tells me to do squats or sit ups and even sending me A.I pictures of my body edited to what āit could beā he doesnāt see how much it messes with me even tho I say thatās not nice to say. Iāve been going to the gym 3x a week the last 2 weeks and a 2 mile walk daily with the kids sense 6 weeks pp like Iām trying but sometimes Iām just so tired⦠Iāve always been a very petite person and I know this might sound stupid but I feel rly anxious to just try and get back to how I was. Idk what to say to him because at the end of the day we want the same thing I just want to look in the mirror and pretty againš¤¦š»āāļø

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Sheās got a cold and a cough right now. Quite mucus-y, but I regularly use saline and try and suck it out of her. She has no temp and is perfectly fine in herself, except she keeps waking herself up 20-30 mins into her nap from coughing/vomiting and then she canāt settle again, so I guess sheās probably more tired during the day.
She has plenty of wet diapers and will poo at least once a day. Logically, I know she must be fine, but it is driving me mad when she refuses all of her usual favourite foods š®āšØ

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