How do I do this?
Devastated newly single mom. Trying to cope with this sudden change. Was a sahm and my husband is now with another woman after us trying for a long time to work out our marriage. He lied and cheated and hid so many things and even cheated before we were married and I didn’t know til years later he admitted it. I still tried to work on it through our church support system and pastor and it ended up all worse when it became more complicated and we had to physically separate he found another woman within a month and is with her now. I am having no contact with him now but just last month was talking to him daily. And still trying to work. He told me he had slept with her and he wanted to and was no apologetic or remorseful. We are dealing with a difficult divorce and custody issues now too. I’m alone with my daughter and not much family around. It’s killing me everyday I cry so hard and am barely coping.
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I am so sorry that he hurt you so badly. You deserve so much better, and so does your daughter. There is nothing anyone can say to you that will make you feel better right now, but here's the thing. You are free now. Free from the lies and cheating. Free to love yourself and your daughter. Free to find someone better when you and your daughter are ready. This isn't your failure. This is his complete failure. Not only as a husband, but as a father. X
Sorry mama. Its never easy. Jus take one day at a time. Find n do things u love. Join dating sites jus to get ur mind off it. Cry all day if u want to. Jus take it easy on U. Time will help to fix things.
Sending you all of the love! Divorce is hard. No matter how much a person wronged you, it can be so difficult to navigate those feelings and reconcile what to do next
Praying for your heart in this season of heartache and loss 🥺 I pray God would comfort your broken heart.. thinking of you during this extremely difficult change
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