Couples with 0 childcare

Following cos girl, same x

Plan at home date nights for when baby is asleep , be intentional with the time
You spend together in the evenings maybe once a week after kids are in bed no phones just the two of you … think outside the box , just because you can’t go out doesn’t mean you can’t do quality time … also do daytime dates so both book a day off work whilst the kids are in nursery and go on a date

How old is your baby? Because I just got my spark back after 20 months. Apparently it’s like 1.5-2.5 years after having a baby for women to feel like themselves again. I had no idea it was that long. I have zero childcare, I’m a SAHM and moved 5000 miles away from both of our families. We’ve never had a night out without the baby. I felt like my life was literally just making him dinner and looking after the baby, but then suddenly something woke up inside of me again, literally overnight, and I actually want to be close to him again

We find the time when kids are in bed. Create movie nights or special dinners at home with the kids then movie night/cuddle time. Sometimes its hard to plan especially when you're exhausted, fall asleep early, etc. But all depending on your situation, a day time nap helps that a bit. Paired with some playful promise clothing and you'll be on your second or third kid like me 🤣🤣🤣 it definitely takes some planning and effort or else you'll be roommates. That feeling is very annoying when you have no you and him time xx

Can’t offer any advice but just wanted to know you’re not alone, exactly the same here!

We often have date lunch 1 weekend a month. My husband gets my toddler and the dog out for an hour long walk while I prep a nice cooked lunch. We feed our son his normaly lunch, put him down for a nap and eat our own meal and watch a film. If we don't finish the film then we finish it once little one is in bed for the night