Birth Center vs Hospital

Yesterday my partner and I toured a local birth center and I honestly didn’t expect to love it as much as I did. I really wanted to use one in the beginning but the further along I get the more people try to scare me and tell me horror stories and it’s making me nervous about not having an epidural option.

I haven’t been the biggest fan of the OB/hospital I’ve been going to because it feels like I’m just a number and the process is way too sterile. Sometimes I’m waiting for almost 45 minutes past my appointment time just to get 5 minutes with my provider, who isn’t even an MD.

The center I went to actually soothed a lot of my anxieties and answered questions about the process that I haven’t even gotten a chance to ask my current OB.

I’m still nervous about doing it natural but they offer nitrous oxide which I wanted to try first, has anyone used alternatives? Anyone used or planning to use a birth center? If you have, what was your experience?

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I’m going with a birth center, but I totally get your anxieties! High intervention birthing is the norm in our culture, and birth is scary. I’m pregnant with my first and also had a lot of concerns about safety. My number one priority is that baby and I get through birth healthy and with as little trauma as possible.

I would recommend asking what their hospital transfer process looks like and what factors or limitations would risk you out of birthing at the center. Like at what point do they recommend you transfer care to a hospital during pregnancy or on the day you go into labor. One thing that also helped me was hearing perspectives from local hospital labor and delivery and NICU staff. My birth center specifically has a reputation of putting the safety of mom and baby above their pride, whereas some other centers have a history of bringing a laboring person in way later than they should have. Midwives at my birth center emphasized multiple times that they aren’t cowboys

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Baby abroad with dad

I need genuine advice whether I’m being crazy.

BD wants to take our baby who will be 12 months at the time abroad to meet his family in Georgia. He currently has her every Sunday, she’s not even been round there overnight yet. This is due to drug charges and other reasons I won’t get into.

We don’t have a court order it is informal arrangent. I have done everything myself for the past 9 months, from sleepless nights, breastfeeding to weaning. I am the primary caregiver.

I am so filled with anxiety at the thought of her being without me for a week let alone abroad?! He’s kicked off and said I’m being unreasonable and it’s not fair.

Is this normal or what? Asking me for reasons why I’m not ok with that?

So…….

So question
Do yall think 🤔 that texting other men/women online is consider cheating? Or do you think cheating is just physical and texting?

Am I the only one..?

Am I the only one that, sometimes, stop myself from saying something because if the other person has a different skin colour than me I fear they might take criticism as racism?

Am i a shitty mom

My son is about to be 9 months, and we currently live with his dad in a duplex. He doesnt work. If he does he works maybe 3 days and finds an excuse to quit. He says its not worth his time for what they pay. I work sunday through friday 5 am to 1:30 and i cant make ends meet. When i was on maternity leave he let bills rack up crazy and i had to use my whole retun to pay off the bills. And now ik the asshole because we obly jave about 200 dollars till i get paid again on the 18th. This is what he had to say when i complained that we wouldnt have had to use all of my return of he wouldve ketp a job that was perfect for our schedule and for our commute. He quit the job because they obly paid him 18/hr and he wasnt gonna do the job pf a machine for soemone who smokes a vape( he hates people who vape and his manager was doing so). Am i a shitty mom if i take my son away from his dad and run to harbor house? I just cant keep with financial abuse. I try everything to keep us above water and he just spits in my face about it.

Does anyone else ever feel like the “disposable” friend?

Like you show up, you care deeply, you try to be there for people… but the moment you can’t give 100%, it’s like your value drops. Like you’re only needed when you’re strong, available, and pouring into everyone else. I’m the kind of person who responds quickly and will continuously be there. I just feel like it’s not reciprocated…

I guess I’m just wondering… how do you know the difference between outgrowing a friendship and just going through a rough spot?

Would love to hear from anyone who’s felt this way 🖤

Am I wrong

Sometimes I wanna tell my fiance to go eat out someone else since I'm tired or go have intercourse with someone else wrong for that🤔