Anyone else’s 3 year old just not listening/behaving well? (A long one sorry)

It’s driving me insane at this point and I know I’m not the only one but I just feel like the only one! I ask him to do anything and he says no or hides, bedtime, bath time, shoes on, teeth brushing, toilet before leaving the house, get dressed, pick toys up, eat his dinner, LITERALLY ANYTHING.

He doesn’t behave well in public as in he will attempt to run off (I don’t allow him to) at any chance he gets. I can’t go shopping, doctors, dentist anywhere with him without dreading it.
I ask him so nicely over and over to do things to the point I just end up shouting because I’m at my wits end and it’s the only way he will listen!

He also has a time out spot because he just has to have it. Although he doesn’t care about it half the time, he’s not silly, if I say to him not to do something again or its time for xyz to be done otherwise it’s time out he will just go to time out instead of doing what I’ve asked 10 times already🤦🏼‍♀️ if I count down from 3 as a warning he will wait until the last second to finally do what’s being asked.

He also started nursery in Jan and as much as he’s loving it and thriving there he’s also just learning naughty things from other kids. He stomps his feet and shouts no, he done that for the first time the other day and I was actually taken back at the attitude. he talks about other children fighting. He didn’t even know the words meaning of fighting before he went there. He’s started slapping my leg every so often and saying ‘I hit you’ also NEVER been an issue before nursery.

I just feel so overwhelmed and touched out to the point where I’m longing for bedtime but also dreading it because that’s another round of wee, teeth brushed and getting him in there and I hate that because I love him dearly but the bad is absolutely outweighing the good by a mile right now.

I don’t often let things get to me, I broke down a few weeks back to my partner and then the in laws took him out for the day so I could get a break maybe once in a while I’ll feel down about it like this, but I’m also 10 weeks pp so maybe the hormones haven’t helped but this is tough right now lol

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Would you be annoyed?

Husband went out last night to a pub quiz (absolutely fine) however his lift home was with his friends new girlfriend who arrived totally drunk yet he still got in the car. He said it was awkward to refuse and get a taxi in front of others. He's 36 years old and I honestly thought he'd do better when he has a family at home. I'm so pissed off with him!

Partner working all the time

Does anyone else have a husband that literally just works all the time I am honestly so drained I am literally so exhausted 😩 😭 I am just on my own all the time I feel like it would probably be better if I was just a single parent sometimes it’s just so draining.
I am currently receiving postnatal support as since giving birth to my second I have been struggling I had a really traumatic time it’s Easter weekend and I am just sitting at home not having the energy to do anything he literally works Monday - Saturday all the time till 5am-7pm.
I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar situation does it get better I just don’t know if I can carry on with this relationship I hardly see him and when I do it’s pretty much bed time.
The washing is piled high the house is a mess and I don’t have the energy to do anything other than to look after my two children.

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Advise!!!

Ok so this Easter Dad is supposed to have 5 nights with our 2yo (court ordered) I’m fine with it. I think our child will struggle as they already struggle with a 2 night stay, but it’s ordered so it has to happen. There is no mention in the order that these are in addition to his regular contact it just says the child will stay with the father for 5 nights at Easter, there was a conversation in court about it only been 5 as it was to build up the nights gradually.

He is now trying to tag it to his weekend meaning he will have 6/7 nights. I don’t agree with this as like I say 2 nights are hard for the child’s it is so 5 is going to be hard and I don’t want to add to it.

My solicitor has said until he agrees I should not let him have her. I agree and I don’t want to give into him as he is very much all about control and abusing me not doing what is right for the child but I am also conscious that the child then misses out on a little holiday away with his family all for the sake of 1/2 nights. It seems so silly.

What’s your thoughts and advice??

2 weeks

I finally got my own apartment and left my husband 2 weeks ago today. Im honestly surprised how civil he's been. But I knew that he'd be with other women immediately, and I thought I was okay with that. The fact that he's still even with nothing to lose because I left, lying to me about being at another house is driving me crazy. I have his location and drove by there the other day so I know. Its. It healthy for me to concern myself with I know. But I cant handle the quickness and the lies. I know this is how he copes, he cant be alone and probably why hes being so nice after I left.