Don’t yall ever get this feeling?

I’m in school for Esthetics and my husband is covering my tuition and The bills in the home. I’m over here trying to find a Job atleast until my Training is over so I can help. His money is squeezing in really tight. I really feel like I can’t do anything. I remember years ago when I was making money like it was no tomorrow but then things changed. I wasn’t making as much as I used to. Now I’m Jobless and Trying to find a way back to work. I got my security license and CPR license. But I can’t work HHA or anything Medical for Personal Reasons. It’s like I’m Trapped bro. I feel like I can’t Provide for my son like I used to. I don’t feel like I’m doing enough let alone, ANYTHING! They reduced my Stamps because they are forcing me to work and it’s HARD finding a job right now, I don’t have a stable sitter, my husband is the only one working and I feel useless and helpless af. I want to make my own money. I gotta go food shopping on Tuesday but the stamps is not enough to cover the month. I can’t even go to “family” for this matter because everyone will turn the other cheek but will ask me for help and expect me to help them immediately. I can’t wait until this training is over so I can start my career so I can help provide for my family the way I want to. But then again I feel like quitting this training so things can be bought in the home the way it need to. My tuition is $11,885. He’s paying $800 a month. Let alone paying extra money to put food in the house because my benefits been cut short. Our phone bill is $300 a month and Internet is $70 a month. We also spend about $50 on Household cleaning supplies a month to every 2 weeks. Too much is going on fr. I don’t know what to do nomore. I tried EVERYTHING! Indeed is not helpful, Amazon isn’t hiring rn, I didn’t even get accepted for Target. Like what???

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Am I being unreasonable for wanting my partner to hold our 1 month old with both hands?

Basically, what it says. I have a lot of anxiety about the baby being dropped. It's not that I think my husband is incapable, weak or too inexperienced. I've told him this, that babies can randomly wriggle out of your arms at any moment. I've been trying to work on this anxiety to not project, so I don't say anything while we're at home. When we're out and about, I get very anxious because instead of putting the baby in the carrier, he sometimes carries her with one arm and pushes the pram with the other hand. I try to say "two hands on the baby, let me push the pram", but he insists it's fine.

I feel like an uneven street slab, something slippery, someone bumping into you, the baby wriggling in an unexpected way, any of this could happen to anyone. I don't want to be annoying but I don't see why he won't just either leave her in the pram or put her in the carrier. He said doing things just to soothe my anxiety doesn't help anyone, and while I agree with that, I think it's a valid concern while we're out and about.

I think it's possible I've got some serious postpartum anxiety going on too, which obviously isn't his fault. I am already seeing a therapist because of PTSD and anxiety, so I'm waiting for my appointment to talk about this. I'm just wondering what your take on this is.

What do you think?

Parenting…

If your husband was happy to do bath & bedtime every night after work and also spend the most time with your kid/kids at the weekends to give you a break… how would you feel about it?

Feeling judged and deflated, and a bit annoyed. Do I need to chill out?

I have a 10m old baby, friends with about 4 or 5 other women who have babies similar ages. Also, my sister has a 3YO. All their babies don’t have problems sleeping, eating etc.

My boy is HIIIGH input, all or nothing baby. He’s never slept well, he has zero interest in food, screams crying being in the car and has to be entertained at every second otherwise he cries.

Whenever I’m at family events (like today), I feel like everyone is judging me because of this. They’re constantly trying to feed my son, as though he’s going to start eating and I feel they think that it’s my fault he is the way he is? My sister kept making comments about how she’d do it and making comments ‘a second time mum would make to a first time mum’, but she’s a FT mum and as far as I’m concerned, we have the exact same experience raising a baby up to 10 months old. When her child was same age, he was soooo chilled out, our experiences are not the same at all, she wasnt surviving off minimal sleep, nor are the others trying to step in.

No one makes direct comments to me, but it’s always comments with maybe I’m taking the wrong way.

Try this, try that. Yes. I have. Leave me alone.

How do I stop being a bedroom parent? 😞

Please don't judge I wasn't always like this. Well I was before I had kids but after my first things were different. I don't feel safe in my living room. I don't like having the blinds open and people being able to see in. I don't like going in the kitchen because even tho I've been in my own house for more than 5 years I still feel like someone's going to come in and start complaining that I'm doing everything wrong or I'm "stealing". I hate making food in my kitchen. I can't cook (except the basics but tbh more than some people I know) but I can follow a recipe but I don't like being in my kitchen for any length of time. I've suffered severe anxiety and depression since I was about 12, after I had my first things were different I was just in my bubble with my baby I didn't care about any of those things anymore. I had a difficult pregnancy with my second and ended up with postpartum depression and anxiety. I breastfed for 6 months and room shared for 8 months, he's 10 months now and I just don't jn know how to fix this this time 😭. It's got to the point my partner has to do meals and tries to get us downstairs but I always just end up taking them back to their room. I don't ignore my kids I spend most of my time in their room with them but I don't want them to end up like me.

Am I being a bad mum??

So this weekend my family had loads of Easter fun planned but my 2 year old has got chicken pox. She's fine in herself, eating and drinking fine etc.

We cancelled plans because we don't want her to spread it.

Ive also had plans to go out locally this evening once kids are asleep for a few drinks with friends, but my husband is giving me a hard time saying im selfish for still wanting to go.

Ive had a rough few weeks and really been looking forward to letting my hair down, kid free for a few hours and now he is making me feel like a shit mum. Am I?

Paying grandparents

I'm about to start back at work, and the grandparents are going to be having baby ad hoc. I will be working 3 days a week, and dad works different rota hours each week. He'll have her when he's available - so they'll be having her ad hoc days.

Question is: how much did you pay grandparents for looking after your little one as a daily rate?

They don't want money but I'd feel more comfortable giving a small amount to help pay for things when she's in their care etc.