Co parenting stress..

Does anyone else get frustrated when kids don’t have rules or routines in another parent’s house?
Because then they come back to you tired, crying over everything cause their tired, terrible attitude and thinking that your house rules no longer apply and neither does their bed time.. one comes back not wanting to sleep in their room cause they still go sleep over there with the other parent, and the other thinks waking up at silly o’clock n gaming is okay…

Like it’s annoying as it’s happening but it’s not the kids that are at fault .. it’s the lack of everything over at another parent’s house. There is no talking to the other parent because they think their right about everything but then when things are not going their way with the kids they ring n message for you to be the bad guy with erm or ask advice then don’t take it cause it means effort…

I know so many people are in this position.. I’m just particularly annoyed as the past few weeks it’s just one thing after another..

in our community

Mother in laws

Anyone else having issues with their mother in laws?!? We use to get along great and now I can’t stand her. With are 3 month old I tell her how I want things done she waits till I’m busy with my 9 year old or I’m in the shower and does the complete opposite of what I asked and then yesterday had the nerve to cuss me out while holding my 3 month old . I wanted to kick her out my husband told me I should have but I didn’t manly because I didn’t want my 9 year old daughter to be upset. Idk what I should do but thanks for letting me vent

Should he go?

I’m a bit in two minds about this. My husbands very good friend (and one of his groomsmen) is getting married in November. It is a 3.5 hour drive away. I am due October 20th. We will also have a 2 year old. I will obviously not be going as there’s no way I want to be driven all that way 3-4 weeks post partum.

He’s such a good dad and I know that he’ll leave it up to me to decide and won’t force going. He’s been amazing this pregnancy and done 95% of the childcare so I can rest. I sort of want to say he can go but I’m terrified of being alone that fresh post partum. What should I do?

Do I have a right to be upset?

My BIL turns 40 in June, his wife messaged asking if we would be joining for the trip, but I cant becauae by then I'll be 36 weeks and do not want to risk travel. Husband declined as well. W

Well today BIL wife messaged my husband asking for sure he can't make it for like a day or two? And honestly I knew this was going to come up. He hasn't decided and we will be talking it over, but why does it make me mad that she would even ask again? I know if she were in my place she wouldn't have her husband travel across the US when she is that far along

Is it wrong for an adult grown women that lives in the same neighborhood as you to purposely try to be spiteful and petty towards a child?! correct me if I'm wrong.

So my son has really bad anxiety.. long story short he was diagnosed with selective mutism by a physiatrists.. anyway he got into it with a neighbor across the street from me because her daughter is annoying to him.. so my son ended up going to her door and she storms out yelling at him and asking him what is his problem.. by the time I got out my car to head towards him he pushed her and she grabbed him by his shirt and jacked him up and was like keep your son away from my house. Mind you we live in an apartment complex lol things got out of hand real quick.. of course she went and told the leasing office.. and she just suggest the kids stay away from eachother. ANYWAY my son has 3 kids that he was really tight with up until today. ( her kids and the other kids and my son was all playing together outside ) since that last incident happened my son been staying to himself.. she invited my son friends inside her house and literally excluded him out in front of everybody my son got upset and started crying.. mind you she never invited them in her apartment until she seen that's what i was doing.. and her kids aren't even " close " with those other kids.. i felt so bad for my son because his feelings was hurt.. i feel like she was being spiteful as hell and was trying to purposely trigger him. Imagaine being left out like that in front of everybody.. i understand her and my son had that situation but he is literally a child 8 years old.

Is it right????

Hey there! I’m a sahm.. I need advice.. my husband and I gotten into a fight about “communication” since he works all the time and is on work calls all the time. Well I kinda kept my distance with everyone but fake smile for my babies for 2 days because I recently been feeling alone and I had family drama with my own, he’s been asking what’s wrong I told him that he’s always on the phone when you’re home (he works out of town a lot and home on weekends) and he said he’s not always on it and got upset got up and left the room but he came back got more into a fight..well I told him fine go leave then, ik I’m wrong to tell him to leave which he did and I’m dealing with postpartum rage/depression, but I made an appointment with a doctor to help my health journey but anyways I called him the day he left saying how sorry I am I got no calls back and his mom called me saying he needs to take a break so now when I call him he put me on silent mode, at this point idc about the fight he has 2 girls 1 is 5 and the other 8 months old, he hasn’t called me to check up on the girls nor gave me money I have $125 cash thats it, I’m home alone. My anxiety is finally calming down but dealing with a teething baby and keeping a 5 year old busy is hard. I called him again to tell him I am sorry and being home all the time is hard and the rage and to forgive me on my part but he’s completely silent, I also have a bubble marathon run on Saturday but Friday I have to register in.. I hope he comes home but the no talking is that strange??

Why can’t I get it together

I feel like such an asshole and idiot. I couldn’t even get my mind together today to make my poor babies dinner on time. One youngest one being 1 kept telling me she was hungry. By the time I got my mind together come up with something to eat (we don’t have may groceries to work with right now) she fell asleep 😭😭😭😭😭 and I tried to wake her to eat but she was so tired she didn’t want to wake up. And I feel terrible because I could hear her little stomach grumble. Idk what’s wrong with me, I hav such brain fog that I can’t even get the basic things done around the house. I contemplate it so much that the state of my house is driving me insane and such a big mess and I can’t get myself out of it. I feel like such a failure.