My husband doesn’t put in effort for intimacy. I’ve told him this has been a concern of mine and that I wanted him to make intimacy and sex a priority because it’s important to me in a marriage. We are super busy with our baby and he’s tired from working 12s couple days a week. However, it’s changing the way I feel but not for the better. I have a strong desire to feel wanted sexually, physically and emotionally. What do I do if I already brought it up multiple times with no changes? He always says he wants to have sex too, and he will make it a priority but we are just too busy.
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it’s hard for me and my fiancé too. we’ve stopped planning it because it’s better when it’s spontaneous lol. when we try to plan sex it feels like a chore to me and i honestly dread it. more touching when im already touched out from the baby. im almost 9 months post partum and have almost no sex drive. i think around 4 months is when i lost all desire to have sex and hated being touched. not saying that will happen to u and my sex drive is slowly starting to come back. i feel u on wanting to be desired, i want to feel desired more than i actually want to have sex lol. my fiancé used to have a lower sex drive than me and that was frustrating cuz i felt like he never wanted to do it. but once we did he was always glad we did. is ur husband kinda like that at all?

It’s called paternal postpartum depression I just learnt this today it’s nature it’s biology yall need to get someone yall both look up to who has experienced child birth to counsel you. This is how I fixed my own today..!

Mind did same a when I ask certain questions he’s reply is always I don’t know’ then he told me I wish I didn’t see you give birth it took mine 4 months to open up and tell me that . So It is trust me don’t give in to negativity and over think it put the effort and fight for your marriage and make it what you want use all the tricks in the book if you must. Remember this is the hard phase of marriage where most couples fall off and never get back in.

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