Does it ever get better?

I have 2 under 2 (23mo and 5mo) and I thought it would get better by now but I feel like it infact got worse. My baby slept really well (fully breastfed) until 3 1/2m and then teh regression hit and were still in it. I’m beyond exhausted, moody, snappy, so so much anger, frustration and I feel like a horrible mum. I can never make both of them happy and I feel like I struggle to really play with my baby because I’m constantly with my toddler. I carry and hold my baby all the time but still struggle and now her sleep is insanely horrible. I have no help or family around I’m really struggling, dreading every night and it feels like a vicious cycle. I don’t want my kids to have an angry mum

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I'm sorry you're having a tough time. You are not a horrible mom though for having a rough go of it. This difficult time will pass and your kids won't remember it. You may not remember it either to be honest. 😄 Please give yourself grace. You're doing one of the hardest jobs in the world without help or family around. You deserve a medal! ❤️ You're a wonderful mama!

I hear you mama. You're doing your best.
Ive been noticing baby is getting bored and wants to move so that may also be the same for you.

But yes it does get better. Once the youngest turns 1. It feels so long in the moment but in a few years when they play together you'll get a break.

As somebody who's 2 under 2 are now 3 and almost 2 (in a couple months), yes. Although it's a new hard, it's more fun than having a baby completely dependent on you and a toddler competing for attention

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