Clingy or obsessive guy

Im Speaking to a male not in a relationship the content of his messages kinda raised alarms bells he sent a message saying "im stuck with him now" on past messages then I got a message from him a few weeks ago asking "what i was doing" i replied a hour later saying i was going getting my medication.... he sent a message now because im ignoring him saying "you gone to not messaging me back for days on end now again" hes either clingy or obsessive all because im ignoring him 🙄what do people think

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That sounds unhealthy and I think you'll be dodging a bullet to ignore him and stop responding to him. He sounds like he's trying to be controlling, putting pressure on you to respond to him.

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Looks like red flags to me - possessive and obsessive. I would stop seeing him tbh

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Me and my partner joke we are stuck with each other and if you ignore him for days its not obsessive he just wants the same commitment hes giving .
Just as you would if you messaged him then he ignored you for days

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Surely he understood or understands that you have been busy and have a life.

I hope you messaged back something like...." No way I'm a very independent woman" I ain't stuck with nobody 😂

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It could be that he's looking for you to entertain him when it suits him and his emotional needs.

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he sounds annoying af

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