Time to ditch the dummy… but she’s found her thumb 😩

I’d really appreciate everyone’s honest opinions. I know everyone does things differently, but I’d love to hear from anyone who’s been through something similar.

My little one has always used a dummy, and my original plan was to wean her off it around 4–5 months, which is where we are now. We’re currently having frequent night wakings where she needs me to put the dummy back in, and I’m also conscious that I don’t want her to get to the stage of being able to put it back in herself.

However, I’ve started noticing signs of thumb sucking. At the moment it doesn’t seem like she’s using it to self-soothe, but I’m not completely sure.

I know there are pros and cons to both, so I’m just looking for some honest perspectives. Ideally, I’d like to stop the dummy now, but I’m aware that thumb sucking can be much harder to break later on.

Also, does anyone have any recommendations on how to stop the dummy? At the moment, I’ve limited it to sleep times only.

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I have had incidents in the past where my body had this involuntary feeling around certain people. I was unsure what exactly their intentions were during that time but I found out that my intuition was right. Except theh ended up being worse than I realized. A mutual friend told me about one of those people threatening to kill behind my back. (He went to jail for that after that) and the other person was a lady who was trying to get me in trouble when I was innocent. My social anxiety is off the charts after these traumatic experiences. There is someone else in my life now who gives off very mixed vibes. On one hand he is nice to my face. He seemed to have good intentions for the most part even if I didn't agree with everything he does. (We agree on a lot of things but he also does a lot of things that I don't agree with.) But now I am at a point where I feel panic anytime he is around me. I feel so judgemental but almost anytime that I ignored my intuiton and gave the people the benefit of the doubt it got worse. Its made my trust issues worse and made me afraid to get close to anyone whether it is a friend or family member or partner.

I am lost

So my daughter drinks up to 5 bottles to at night because she wakes up for a bottle and one in the morning she drinks a couple in the day she 18 months old her doctor told me to cut down to 2 but it’s in possible because at night she wakes up crying what should I do

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30min naps only

Hello,
Are you guys letting baby have only short naps? Have you been in situation when baby had only 4 x 30min naps a day?
I usually extend one to 1 or 1.5hrs and then 3x30min. Yesterday I couldn’t extend one nap due to lack of time etc (being out and about) and we have had terrible night / evening actually. His last nap ended at 5pm. We put him to bed at 7pm (wanted earlier but he didn’t want to fall asleep). He then woke up after half an hour. We managed to resettle him but then he kept waking up every 5-10min with arms going up and wide eyes open then crying (startle reflex or moro reflex). We have been trying for 2 hours to put him sleep and he just kept doing it and not letting himself sleep. I’ve decided to put swaddle back (arms) and I think that helped him fall asleep (even though he shouldn’t sleep with arms in as he is rolling already but I do have breathing device - no hate please).
Have you been in similar situation? What time did you put baby sleep? Guessing he was super tired that was the reason of the startle reflex?
Napper app told me to put him sleep even later… chat GPT advised 7pm 🤷‍♀️
Probably today will be similar day so I just want to prepare myself…