Useless partner.. what do I do at this point!
So in my whole pregnancy my partner wasn’t supportive, useless and basically neglected me. It’s got WORSE post partum.. how is this possible?? He helped the first week or so but ever since He hasn’t looked after me at all, left me to do everything as per like all the house work, nappy changes bottles I have to wake him up to help and then he falls back to sleep snd ignores me. When he does do something it takes hours for one little task,
all he tells me is how tired he is
I had stitches down there so I can’t lift anything for 6 weeks either, the house is becoming messy because he won’t help run the hoover over aswell or move heavy things etc Everything’s “I’ll do it in a minute “ I’m being called everything under the sun when I call him out on his behavior and then he just constantly walks out because he can’t handle it.. even in general he’s in the toliet for over half an hour or he’s outside vaping. I can’t back being with an immature guy anymore.. I’ve spoken to him a million times nothing changes, I also have all the financial responsibility as he has no money atm cos he was off work on paternity, I’m so sick of arguing I have tried to end the relationship every single day and it’s like he won’t let me!! I feel like a single mum
What do I do! Thoughts?
New SAHM having issues relating
I’m having the best time the 1st year of motherhood and I cannot relate to 95% of other moms to the point it’s making it hard for me to make new mom friends. I used to work 60-80 hours in corporate finance so this is the lowest stress I’ve had in years. I basically spend my days outside exercising with my baby and doing a ton of stuff like farmers markets, swim lessons, playgrounds, street festivals, museums, restaurants, baseball games. We are very clean and organized but we live in an apartment so it only takes me about an hour a day and a 2 hour deep clean every Sunday to keep our home together. I’ve worked hard exercising the last few years to lose about 40lbs so I also feel great physically. Many moms I meet instantly ask me if I’m also “lonely at home” or how I feel about new body and I feel like no matter what I say, it makes me sound like an asshole. I really want to encourage them to come outside with me but they immediately say it’s too hard. I think I just need to work harder to find some moms who are doing the same things I am, but I also feel guilt essentially not wanting to be friends with nice people who are having a hard time adjusting. I want to make some new mom friends because I’m also not relating to old my friends because most of them don’t have kids. Is anyone else having this problem?
