Does your partner do the nursery drop offs before they go to work?

My husband works 9-5 and has to go into the office 3 days a week. His commute is just over an hour long. It's his task to get our toddler fed & ready and dropped off to nursery which is right opposite the tube station. But my husband really struggles to juggle this. He can just about get himself ready on time let alone both of them.
I'm not in a position to help atm as I am still in the newborn/infant trenches. My baby has tummy issues and wants to be held 24/7.
Any tips? Am I asking husband to do too much?

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Can your toddler have breakfast at nursery? Make sure the toddlers clothes for the day are laid out and ready and all their nursery bag right by the door ready to go. I always say to myself and my husband, we get the kids ready and then we get ready. We can get ready in 5 mins if really needed, whereas toddler is unpredictable. I always set a 10 min alarm before I have to leave as a 10 minute ‘warning’

We had the exact same situation! It had got easier ☺️ I don’t think you’re asking too much - I think there’s a learning curve for them to be able to really understand toddlers needs (at least there was in my husbands case… she went to nursery in tights and a tshirt multiple times 🙈). Things we’ve found helped are
- overnight oats for breakfast the night before
- letting toddler play upstairs while husband sorts himself out (but he therefore needs to be up a bit earlier)
- laying out what she’s wearing the night before
- sorting nursery bag the night before

our LO is 6m now and it is definitely much better! If I can help I will but can leave him to it

Hope that helps!! X

No he doesn’t because im the driver & instead of lugging all 3 kids I drop off the ones who go school/nursery & leave baby sleeping. My partner then gets ready & leaves when I get back in. You’re defo not asking too much. I get my partner to help me on mornings im getting more than 1 child ready as it’s chaos getting everyone done on time. It’s called teamwork can defo be done don’t feel bad xx

I don’t think you’re asking too much at all.
If you were on your way to work, you’d be expected to get everyone ready and be on time.
He’ll have to find a way to make it easier for himself like we all would.
Prepare stuff the night before and get up earlier!

My partner is the same. He’s so good at helping with so many things but he will sleep in like he has no responsibilities and then spend the whole time rushing around. Drives me insane!!!

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My husband has been getting upset so much he was in the process of leaving work so I was giving him the benefit of the doubt with all the stress and just let it be….
He’s retired now and home with us now but his anger is just on another level. We literally can’t even get in the car and go anywhere because everyone is always wrong to him and he’s the only one that is doing things right and thinks….
We got in an argument today and he left per usual he always leaves when he gets really upset and usually always comes back with something for me (soda candy etc) I feel like he knows once he cools down he took it too far but idk… could be wrong since he thinks he’s the only one to be right.
I’m just so over his attitude towards everything not to mention the helicopter parent he is my kids can’t even be kids because he thinks the worst is going to happen it’s just exhausting…

I know a lot of you are gunna just hop on the comments and say leave I’ve seen it suggested a lot before so I was hesitant to post this and just be told to leave… but it wasn’t always like this and when we’re good we are good I just don’t know what to do at this point.

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