Inconsistent routine

Everyday is different for my LO. There’s no set routine in the sense, one day she’ll wake up at 7am the next 9am. Then snacks, lunch, dinner , nap times are all different every single day. I returned back to work and I feel like I should have a set routine at this point but there isn’t one? What can I do. The only set thing about it is her bedtime is 9pm.

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We set our routine by having the same wake up time each day as then it anchors everything else! So ours looks like this (on non-nursery days)

6.30 wake
8 breakfast
10-11.15 nap
12 lunch
3-4 nap
5 dinner
8 bed

On nursery days she naps slightly earlier but we try to keep bedtime as close to 7.45/8 as possible to keep her routine

When we go down to one nap I assume bedtime might shift a bit earlier to 7.30. She sleeps about 10.75 hours a night generally. It’s definitely anchoring the wake time that helps the rest of the routine so you could work out what works best for a 9pm bedtime if you want it to stay at that time.

We are the same, we are all over the place and I have been trying to get into routine since forever with him, when we finally start getting into routine, he becomes unwell or my daughter becomes unwell ( she’s 5) so we are all over the place, it’s hard, bedtime is the same, he goes to sleep about 9-9.30, no matter how much I try to get into it, we are all over, so I’m glad it’s not just me🙈🙈

I second what Callie says, if my daughter hasn’t woken by 7am I wake her but she normally wakes somewhere between 6 and 7am. I find this keeps her routine fairly consistent give or take 15-30mins x

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