First baby

I’m having my first baby soon and plan to not work after for a while. Are there mums out there that love being a stay at home mom?

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Yes, and it was never what I wanted but it ended up being the silver lining in my lack of career success. I love it. These kids are so amazing and I want to be there for it all.

There are so many factors to be considered to be a happy sahm. It depends on yourself, values, desires, etc. a few things to consider ….

***How is your relationship with your partner? Is he reliable, dependable, reasonable?

***Are you on the same page financially? Will u have access to the money he brings in and have a say on financial decision? What is his mindset about sahm? Does he think providing is him working… and contributing to rhe home and kid orrrrrr will he say he is provider and your job is ALL house work and kid?

*How are you financially? Are you going to live check to check or do you all have plans for saving and retirement?

**How is your mental health now? How do you handle stress? Do you have a support system to talk to and also keep your child occasionally??

*have you discussed life insurance, disability insurance if working spouse gets injured or sick? Will you keep your skills up by getting part time work, taking classes, or have a side business?

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Working vs SAHM

Trying to decide if I want to go back to work or become a SAHM. We went through infertility for 3 years and had our baby girl in February.
I’m supposed to go back in a month but cant decide if I’d rather stay home. We can do it financially.
I do like my job but it also stresses me out at times. I would ask to go back 3 days a week if I did go back (already asked just in case, awaiting response) so I’d have 3 days on, 4 days off.
This may be our only child since I’m 32 so I don’t want to miss out on these early months/years. We also have inquired at multiple daycares and haven’t been able to get her a spot.
Advice?

Girl Mom Friends!

Looking to find a few people to chat about our babies 😅 I’m 25 ftm! My daughter is 7m

Partner has no sex drive!

So my partner and I have only had sex 4 times since I was about 5 months pregnant. I am now almost 4 months postpartum, and it’s driving me crazy because he won’t talk to me or tell me what the issue is so obviously I think it’s about me! My postpartum depression is already so bad and thinking it’s because of me makes me feel worse! I’ve even told him this and it hasn’t changed much.

Was I rude here? Gym etiquette.

Yesterday I was trying out a new machine, the leg press I’ve avoided it because I’m a little scared of using it and breaking my legs.

Anyways, it took me a minute to figure out how to use it. I wasn’t sure if I had good form so I did a very light test set to start then recorded a few more reps to reassure myself. I don’t like to take long on anything so I did feel bad taking extra time here but this lady was apparently waiting right behind me, arms crossed sitting on a different machine watching me. I got up to put a challenging working weight on and she just assumed I was done. She didn’t ask she just got in my persona space to whisper to leave the weights and tried to sit down. She caught me off guard and I asked her what she said three times brace she was very quiet and had a thick accent. But she was just assuming I was don she didn’t ask me she just said leave the weights on three times. I ended up saying I don’t know what you’re talking about I’m not finished. Exactly that.

Now I feel embarrassed. There are three of these machines too. One was empty but it’s a horizontal one so not exactly the same but still similar. I feel like you’d never catch someone doing this at the barbells. I get watched and rushed almost every time I use a machine but then I’ll be waiting ages (basically finishing my whole session waiting on someone to get out of the abductor machines). Idk I’m just frustrated, embarrassed and tired of the rude people at my gym.

Do people really want to make friends?

I’ll like a honest conversation please.

Do people really want to make friends or they think they want to? I’ve had so many of my chats left unreplied even when it shows the blue read tick.

If my profile or face doesn’t interest you, a kinder letdown than ignoring is better.

It’s kinda frustrating

Mom friends!

Looking for mom friends! Perfectly okay if it’s just texting as I’m a ftm going back to work soon, with 4 boys and my husband is a farmer and I live in South Dakota. Been dealing with PPD which is a first with this being my 5th son but having a hard time with depression and anxiety since one of my sons was killed and it’s making everything after having my youngest hit me like a freight train. So just trying to make new friends and feel more like a person than a human milking machine.