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Working vs SAHM

Trying to decide if I want to go back to work or become a SAHM. We went through infertility for 3 years and had our baby girl in February.
I’m supposed to go back in a month but cant decide if I’d rather stay home. We can do it financially.
I do like my job but it also stresses me out at times. I would ask to go back 3 days a week if I did go back (already asked just in case, awaiting response) so I’d have 3 days on, 4 days off.
This may be our only child since I’m 32 so I don’t want to miss out on these early months/years. We also have inquired at multiple daycares and haven’t been able to get her a spot.
Advice?

Girl Mom Friends!

Looking to find a few people to chat about our babies 😅 I’m 25 ftm! My daughter is 7m

Partner has no sex drive!

So my partner and I have only had sex 4 times since I was about 5 months pregnant. I am now almost 4 months postpartum, and it’s driving me crazy because he won’t talk to me or tell me what the issue is so obviously I think it’s about me! My postpartum depression is already so bad and thinking it’s because of me makes me feel worse! I’ve even told him this and it hasn’t changed much.

Was I rude here? Gym etiquette.

Yesterday I was trying out a new machine, the leg press I’ve avoided it because I’m a little scared of using it and breaking my legs.

Anyways, it took me a minute to figure out how to use it. I wasn’t sure if I had good form so I did a very light test set to start then recorded a few more reps to reassure myself. I don’t like to take long on anything so I did feel bad taking extra time here but this lady was apparently waiting right behind me, arms crossed sitting on a different machine watching me. I got up to put a challenging working weight on and she just assumed I was done. She didn’t ask she just got in my persona space to whisper to leave the weights and tried to sit down. She caught me off guard and I asked her what she said three times brace she was very quiet and had a thick accent. But she was just assuming I was don she didn’t ask me she just said leave the weights on three times. I ended up saying I don’t know what you’re talking about I’m not finished. Exactly that.

Now I feel embarrassed. There are three of these machines too. One was empty but it’s a horizontal one so not exactly the same but still similar. I feel like you’d never catch someone doing this at the barbells. I get watched and rushed almost every time I use a machine but then I’ll be waiting ages (basically finishing my whole session waiting on someone to get out of the abductor machines). Idk I’m just frustrated, embarrassed and tired of the rude people at my gym.

Do people really want to make friends?

I’ll like a honest conversation please.

Do people really want to make friends or they think they want to? I’ve had so many of my chats left unreplied even when it shows the blue read tick.

If my profile or face doesn’t interest you, a kinder letdown than ignoring is better.

It’s kinda frustrating

Leaving my baby with MIL

My partners Mum is desperate to have our 5 week old baby, but I just don't feel comfortable with it!

MIL makes no effort with me whatsoever. Her other grandchild had chickenpox, so we told MIL we was happy for her to continue seeing us on the condition she gave the other grandchild a wide berth. She decided not to and carried on contact, so naturally we took a step back and stayed away. My partner had several narky remarks off of her during this period, such as "I'm not really his Nonar am I, I'm not allowed to see him" or "He'll be 18 by the time I'm allowed to have him". So I caved to the pressure and allowed her to see us.

As soon as I reluctantly passed her my baby, she announced "Oh I've felt ever so poorly all week".. Why would she tell me that after letting me pass her my baby, knowing how worried I am already & why would she risk passing something to my baby? My partner said to think nothing of it and she will of been fine, she just likes to have a moan about something.

A few days later, I agreed a days work (I'm self employed with a salon still operating). MIL insisted she had our baby after not yet being asked to have him. I reluctantly agreed, but said under no circumstances did I want the other Grandchild in contact still. She replied saying he was fine now and not to worry, but I stood my ground and said I'd rather wait just a few more days to be clear.

Fast forward to the day I leave our baby with her, low & behold, I check the cameras (I couldn't get hold of my partner so just wondered if he was home) & low & behold, MIL there with BOTH my baby, and poorly grandchild. Behind my back.

I was in tears all day. Any trust I had is gone. It caused so much friction between me & my partner, as naturally I'm livid & he doesn't want me to be cross with his Mum.

Since then, my partner explained to his Mum how upset I was, and that the boundaries were there for a reason & not to be crossed. I've not since heard a dickie bird from her. No apology, nothing.

Whenever she phones my partner, she continues with the sh*tty digs again. "She doesn't want me to see MY grandchild" etc etc.

All I want is for my boundaries to be respected to keep my baby safe. Am I being neurotic? She's now applying pressure to my partner again to have our baby & I just can't bring myself to allow it.

I've really tried to create a bond between me & MIL but it just seems impossible. I've suggested lunch out in the past (never got a reply). I made such a fuss on Mothers Day on my partners behalf & also got her gifts and cards from our baby. It all just gets over looked. I feel like she doesn't like me as a person & this is why she doesn't respect my decisions.

Any advice on how to combat this?