I'm yelling at the top of my lungs nowadays with a 3yo

3yo son

I'm a single mom not by choice

I'm so tapped out as a single mom every time my son whines because he's frustrated and can't figure something out screaming "WHATTTTTT" .. like "WHAT NOW?!!!!"

I literally walked away for two fucking seconds

It's the constant neediness. I get it but serious to fucking God I am TAPPED OUT TOUCHED OUT ABSOLUTELY GOING BONKERS

I'M LOSING MY COOL SO OFTEN NOWADAYS

I FEEL LIKE A POS

My son now picks up on my emotions.. he knows when I'm angry or annoyed because I say so. I don't sugar coat anything and I'm emotionally honest so he knows and matches mood with reality and does NOT get confused by my emotions. I make sure to do that

But I'm seriously losing my shit every single day now

I just can't anymore. I wanna die

What's the worst is when he's so tired I have to remind him how tired he is and sometimes have to just drop him in his crib and walk away

IS THIS NORMAL????

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Yes the neediness of your 3 yr old is normal , along with your feelings of being touched out & needing a break. I’ve figured out that by taking my toddlers to places they can engage with other kids (we have an inside park called play cafe at Judson mill) I was able to let them play for hours and get a peace of mind and even work a little. They only came to talk with me 3x or for potty breaks. Best $12 I’ve ever spent and they offer day passes. I’d look into this , also kids that age love arts and crafts and pbs kids has some fun games they can engage in . Try an early bedtime btw 6-7:30 pm. If needed I use sleep gummies from a site called Nutra champs , clean ingredients. And it helps.

Lastly, when you are frustrated try breathing techniques, breathe in hold for 3 sec , breathe out slower.

On the website I mentioned earlier they have ashwaganda gummies for stress management. It helps sooooo much!

And another thing .. lol sorry to blow up your comments sec. I’m in school for early childhood education. Yelling doesn’t help , and it’s teaching him to yell when frustrated. Try getting on his level , literally .. it makes a difference. Kneel down and talk to him. Calmly . Tell him what’s he is doing makes you feel like this (x emotion ), and can we try this instead. Try redirecting him , suggesting you do something else if he keeps needing help with something and it’s becoming too much . This is where those extra activities I mentioned come in handy. I found an arts and crafts bin for like 12 bucks at cvs. Or try the washable paint , threading beads etc.

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