When do I need to start figuring something out

For a baby who’s currently 6 months old and will only feed directly from me will be starting childminders when he’s 11 months old

Were a month into solids he’s still more about purées and doesn’t seem to be taking to BLW with bigger pieces of food yet which I know will come

We’ve tried open cup, cup with handles, cup with straw and several different bottles and teats he would take a bottle around 6 weeks but hasn’t since then

When I go back to work and he starts the childminders and I’m back at work I’m worried about how he will get his milk feeds I would prefer him to predominantly have breast milk rather than moving to cows milk at a year old

Just wondering if anyone has any hints and tips and how long do I let him be breastfeeding from me before I really need to start getting him to take from a cup etc will it possibly come naturally as he gets older or do I need to offer cup everyday with milk? He can use a cup but will only have water

My main issue is if I pump to offer milk to him another way other than direct from me and he doesn’t take it he gets frustrated at the breast later feeding from me as the letdown is slower and wakes more through the night to feed

FTM here any help/ tops appreciated xx

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Baby fell off bed

My boy turned 8 months old today and unfortunately fell off my bed. He hit his head and has a 1.5cm graze. Took him to a&e and they cleared him. Sent home within under an hour. He has been fine, his normal self.
I just can’t shift the guilt and I keep crying whenever I think about it or see his graze.
I suppose I am writing this to offload but also gain any support/advice from others.
I’m already struggling atm feeling inadequate. This has just sent me over.

Cheating husband

Just found out my husband been having an affair, I'm done.
How do you navigate being a single parent with a 8 week old baby?

What are my next steps?

I'm yelling at the top of my lungs nowadays with a 3yo

3yo son

I'm a single mom not by choice

I'm so tapped out as a single mom every time my son whines because he's frustrated and can't figure something out screaming "WHATTTTTT" .. like "WHAT NOW?!!!!"

I literally walked away for two fucking seconds

It's the constant neediness. I get it but serious to fucking God I am TAPPED OUT TOUCHED OUT ABSOLUTELY GOING BONKERS

I'M LOSING MY COOL SO OFTEN NOWADAYS

I FEEL LIKE A POS

My son now picks up on my emotions.. he knows when I'm angry or annoyed because I say so. I don't sugar coat anything and I'm emotionally honest so he knows and matches mood with reality and does NOT get confused by my emotions. I make sure to do that

But I'm seriously losing my shit every single day now

I just can't anymore. I wanna die

What's the worst is when he's so tired I have to remind him how tired he is and sometimes have to just drop him in his crib and walk away

IS THIS NORMAL????

Self employed husband

Hi ladies. I need advice on my relationship and partnership. My husband is self employed. I left work early this year as life became too hard as his schedule as below never changed it’s been like this. His schedule

8.30am wake up and responds to emails and makes work calls

9.30 he gets ready to leave the house for work. I don’t make him any breakfast on principle as I’m overwhelmed with kids and home and he gets bugged by this because he feels the bare minimum I can do for him as a hard working man is to make sure he’s fed.

All day. No contact from him unless he needs something from me. No calls if kids are unwell. No calls if I’ve said I’m not feeling great today. Nothing. But I’ll get back to back calls from him if he wants to know something with urgency.

After school I pick up the kids, and we’re usually home bound for the rest of the evening.

He pulls up to the drive around 6pm most days. Sits in his car doing more admin and work calls.

He’ll come inside around 7pm. Kids are starting to get ready for bed. He leads them to their rooms and focuses on putting the youngest down. In that time I’m usually downstairs tidying or go out for a supermarket shop.

At 8.30/9 most nights of the week he goes out to catch up with a friend or work related something. Comes home around midnight or later. If not out he watches his TV series. I’ve started to sleep in the big kids room as he is better at settling the baby at night.

Most nights I stay downstairs scrolling on my phone or doing house chores.

We have intimacy only if he initiates. I have lost my spark for anything pleasure related.

I don’t know how to make him realise he’s losing his connection with me. I am just cordial with him for the most days unless I’m really annoyed I stop talking to him for several days. I’ve tried talking to him and explaining, trying to set work switch off boundaries etc. I don’t know if anyone’s been in this position where you just reach a point of not caring to address the problems anymore.

Will he ever come to realise I’ve accepted I am a single married woman?? Will he even care?? His defence ALWAYS is MONEY. If he doesn’t work this hard we won’t be able to sustain the house and cars etc. I MUST add he is the materialistic one in us and always wants to have things slightly better than everyone else.

What’s your advice on how to make my final plea to him.

This is crazy 😩😮‍💨

So my son father got fired from his job at Amazon in January I been working to pay all the bills $1200 rent and other bills by myself he been looking for jobs & haven been able to find one I been helping him look for jobs and I got him three interviews tomorrow… I been working by myself while he sit at home and watch my son he just now applying for unemployment when I been told him to in January I been buying groceries every week so everybody can eat he’s been catching attitudes with me staying downstairs all day until 6am and when I go in the bedroom he leaves out over small arguments and blocks me on social media while I’m paying everything and helping him find jobs because I’m tired of helping him and all he’s giving me is attitude I’m thinking about looking for a cheaper apartment for me and my son & putting my son back in daycare and moving on plus I shouldn’t be handling all the bills for almost 4 months now I told him I could least get a little bit of “respect” for helping you get interviews and paying all the bills and other woman would’ve left by now.

Unsure on what to do with my relationship.

I really don’t know what to do in terms of where I go with my relationship with my partner. Im starting to feel fed up extremely now. First of all there is absolutely no affection, no sex, no kissing, no cuddling, no hugs. I feel like we are just roommates with a baby at this point. I cant be vulnerable around him because he just completely dismisses my feelings with everything. The relationship absolutely bores me. Alls he does is come home and sleep. Doesn’t help with anything, doesn’t really take me on, doesn’t really take our 9 month old on. I feel really sorry for my son. Says he loves me and every time Ive tried to leave he begs me not to but alls I can feel is he feels the opposite to what he is telling me and honestly now Im questioning whether I love him or not. I don’t really want to sleep in the same bed as him anymore. I feel like what is the point? Ive spent some nights even more so recently on the couch because I cant sleep knowing he is there. Resentment has just been growing since our son was born and some reasons I know why but I don’t know how it has got so bad. All he is focused on is money. I stay home with my son because he isn’t in nursery yet and we have no other options and cant get him in till September so I have no money at all. He has 5,500 coming in a month and not a single penny is given to me to pay the bills that go out of my account. Ive been living off of compensation money. Just to add I have paid for TWO of his vehicles with my compensation money from when I was raped before we met and not got a penny back either even though he knows I have nothing. It never feels like we work as a team when I feel like it should be but If I ask him for any money it’s the same argument of well you should work for your money. What does he expect me to do? Split myself in two? Keeps talking about having more kids with me and proposing to me but never has sex with me and apparently doesn’t have enough money to propose like what? He only pays the rent at 450 a month and then pays insurance on his van at 50 a month. Where is all the rest of this money going from 5,500/6000 grand a month. He is always on the phone with friends when he isn’t sleeping I wouldn’t mind but he sleeps all through the night and Im constantly up with my son and have always done the night wakes with him so Im exhausted as well. Its like he does everything possible to just pretend we aren’t there, to not interact with us.