Bedtime routine for toddler and baba

Help please 🙃 I am struggling getting the timings of bedtime right with our nearly 3 year old and 8 month old. Both boys are ready to go to bed round 730 and with my hubby away its hard getting the timing right doing both bed time routines.

At the minute I bring the little one up to do bedtime routine / story time with his big brother which is sometimes ok but most of the time its a constant screaming match from baba who is just dog tired.

I have tried swapping things about and doing the little ones routine first but that was a complete fail. After giving him his bottle he could hear his big brother in the other room and got a new lease or life 🫠 didnt settle for ages and meant big brother wasnt up in bed until later.

Anyone have any advice? My brain just isnt braining at the moment so hoping someone else has some experience/guidance to offer. Thanks all!

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Am I overreacting?

My LG goes to nursery 4 days a week (3 half days and 1 full day). We have to provide our own nappies and wipes and were told when they’re running out so we can restock, which is fine.

My issue is, the last few days, my LG has come home in a random nappy from a brand that isn’t hers and she’s started to become sore down there. When my partner brought it up to the baby room manager, her response was ‘oh well, babies are babies, it doesn’t matter and they pull them out the drawers’. For one, the drawers are high up as I’ve seen them so shouldn’t be getting pulled out and 2. If I’m providing nappies, use them because what if the persons nappies being used, can’t afford a lot?

We’ve had no issues with the nursery until this but I wonder if maybe I’m overreacting about it?

Car seats

I’m so sorry if this is a stupid question but I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd baby. What happens with car seats in the back of the car? My other two are still in car seats they are nearly 4 & 2? Where will the new born car seat go? Am I being stupid?🤦🏽‍♀️😂😂😂

Advice needed

I keep waking up feeling like a bad mum!
My boy is 13 weeks old, for the last few nights he’s started stirring so I’ve popped his dummy in and he’s gone to sleep. This has resulted in me feeding him at about 4/5am after his last feed at 9/9.30pm. After that feed he won’t wake up fully (just stir and I pop dummy in until about 9/9.30am) I’m not questioning whether if I’m starving him through the night! Should I give him the dummy when he stirs or should I be offering him a feed?
Would he settle with a dummy and go back to sleep if he was actually hungry? As I know through the day when he’s hungry nothing settles him other than the feed so sometimes I have to feed him earlier than the 3 hours he usually goes.
Through the day he’s having about 6 feeds and he’ll take 160ml-170ml each feed. Is this enough to sustain such long gaps through the night? He appears to be gaining weight well , hes fit in 3-6months since bang on 12 weeks and he’s a very happy baby when he’s awake.

Visitors of newborn.

I’m feeling a bit anxious about having visitors after I get home from having my baby. I know a baby’s immune system is immature for the first 2 months of life and don’t want her to get any germs.

I am worried about family members turning up and not telling me their poorly like got a cough or viral thing. My question is has anyone ever visited your home and been poorly?

Can your baby self soothe to sleep?

If so, how did they learn? How did you support them?

PPD

How do y'all deal with PPD, my son is 3 months old and I feel like my PPD is just getting worse it was good at first now it's so bad that I'm considering putting myself into a mental hospital