Am I in the wrong? Help me understand

Hey everyone little context I have been out and had a babysitter for my son ONCE. Since I could remember I was always caged in by my parents I was never let out to do anything even with my own family. Since I had my some my family has been telling me that since I’ve had my son there no such thing as me time or fun time for myself at all. I go out one time and my entire family is in my ass about me stepping out for 5-6 hrs out of the day with my cousins have ONE drink. And the babysitter was my own aunt and my mom says I left my son with a stranger to everyone. Am I in the wrong that I want to have fun since I never experienced any of that in my life. Again I understand I have my son and ofc I would prefer to come home to him than being blacked out from drinking. My sons father also encourages me to go out and he’ll watch our son while I am out and if I wanted to step out the whole n night it’s fine by him but just to him now ahead of time. Am I in the wrong? Or help me understand

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Men gaze?

Anyone else’s husband very vocal about not liking the “plastic” look? Like everytime he sees a girl with lip injections or heavy makeup up he’s just like “ I don’t know how people like that. It’s not attractive to have all that crap going on”. But like all these of models and junk are all plastic 😅 he dosnt do any of that but I know ALOT of men do. Like I believe him but sometimes I wish I could look more like some of them because my lips are thin and after kids my boobs are saggy but he insists that he loves my body the way it is. Idk just thinking

I don’t like my toddler.

My little one was a easy baby. So loving. Even entering toddlerhood the big feelings moments were not nearly as horrible as they are now. She listens well and we hardly have to repeat ourselves until she says okay mommy or daddy. This past week her behavior has been horrible. She is giving me nasty looks when I am smiling at her. She crosses her arms at me. She screams at the top of her lungs saying go away, leave me alone, no, etc. We have her in preschool half time and her teachers have no complaints, she is always very passive and friendly. To top it off, she hits me so much. She will dig her nails into my arms and swing her arms and hit me. She will also use her head to try to hit me when I hold her arms at her side to try to stop the hitting. We never spank her back and we are firm with her on timeouts but even that she will fight so hard whereas before she would go and sit down on timeout no issues. She is turning 3 in the summer. I’m at a loss as to why she is acting so out of the ordinary. I want to chalk it up to be developmentally normal but there are zero sweet moments with her now. Even when she sits with me she will look at me and clench her jaw and push her head really hard into me or only want her dad. I just want to cry cuz I feel guilty for feeling like I don’t like her at all. I’ll always love her but it’s like the sweet kind cuddly girl she was has been possessed by this feral mean abusive toddler. Please help me, am I alone in this? Are there any other moms going through this because for some reason when I talk about this with other moms they are all shocked that she knows to hit and thinking that we showed her the hitting. Why the hell would I expose her to hitting?! I only have one mom friend who said her child also hits and it was not like she was taught that, kids just do that right? I’m at a loss.

Wotsits

Such a weird and random question but when did everyone start feeding their babies wotsits etc. according to google not advised under 12m

Feel like I hate my husband

Is this me and our relationship has gone south or is tgjs a common thing !
Honestly feel like I hate my husband , we never really argued and now I feel like we always do , I’m fed up of it & don’t want to feel like this any more 🙈

Stranger Danger conversation with littles

Hi moms, I want to start a discussion about stranger danger based on something that happened yesterday.

I’m still on maternity leave, and on Wednesdays my husband works late, so every week I take my (almost) 5yo son and 11.5wk old daughter to the park before dinner (usually 6-7pm). We eat dinner later on Wednesdays so we can eat with my husband who usually gets home at 7:30. Yesterday, there was another kid there (he told my son he was 8yo) playing completely alone, no adult was with him the entire time. Him and my son played together while I sat close by with my daughter. I was close enough to see him at all times but couldn’t always hear what they were talking about.

When it was time to leave, the boy started following us home. It was about a 15 minute walk back to our house. He kept asking my son where we live and which house was ours. We live in a large townhome community (500+ townhomes). After a bit and before we got to our block our house was on, I told him it was time for him to head home.

As we walked away, my son told me the boy kept asking him those same questions at the park, plus things like when his dad would be home, does he stay home by himself sometimes and if we have a door camera. My son (completely innocent) told him to follow us so he could show him where we live, that his dad works late on Wednesdays and that our door camera is dead (earlier that day i was on the phone with my husband talking about ordering a new charger for the ring camera bc it had died and wasn’t charging, i assume that’s why my son said the door camera was dead)

I’m sure it was completely innocent, and part of me feels like I might be overreacting, but something about it didn’t sit right with me. So I asked if he knew the boy’s name, and he said no and that the boy wouldn’t tell him, which also felt a little strange.

It definitely made me raise an eyebrow and has me thinking more about having a serious, age appropriate conversation with my son about stranger danger and sharing too much personal information.

How are you or would you approach the conversation about stranger danger with your 4-5 year olds? What would you say and how do you keep it clear but age appropriate?

Would really appreciate an honest & open discussion about this. TIA🤍

fuh ass bd

so this is minor asf ( maybe) but as long as i can remember my partner goes to work comes back plays games on repeat. Yes he does do what he needs to do ( chores, bub stuff) ect. I work from home. Home 24/7 with my 12 month old all every day 7 days a week. Am I wrong to ask not even 5 mins of his time to me and not his games?? Every time i ask “ oh can you not play tonight, lets watch a movie or sum?” Greeted with annoyance and “ why , do i have to bruh?” “ what are we even going to do” “ fk man i can’t play” “bs“. Yeah everyone can wind down. But like it gets to a point where you’re up late at 3am still going.