Child caregiver concerns
I don’t know if I’m being paranoid, but I have concerns about my nanny, who works for us 20 hours a week, and I’m not sure if I should ask her to stop.
1. She sometimes ignores my instructions regarding feeding (e.g., not burping the baby twice during feeds, even though the doctor advised this for his reflux), not doing leg exercises as requested and she does when baby is straining.
2. She ignored me twice when I said I wanted to bathe the baby (she only does it once a week).
3. Before we hired her, she said she enjoys cooking, but now she seems reluctant every time she has to cook for us.
4. She wants to take days off whenever she chooses and get paid more than half in cash and the rest with invoice.
5. She often asks to come with me wherever I go, even though I decline.
6. She arrives late after dropping off her child, although she says she will make up the time later and does stay longer on Fridays.
7. She avoids doing certain household tasks (e.g., she has never taken out the nappy bin or clean the nursery)
8. She mentioned she used to attend social events with children of other families and has suggested that now the weather is warmer, we could go to the park with the baby.
9. She has become too personal- she comments on my some of my clothes and accessories, and since I’ve travelled a lot, I sometimes feel she may be envious.
I don’t want her to attend mum-and-baby events with me, as I don’t need her in that context. I need someone to help me care for the baby, not a companion or entertainer.
I don’t trust her anymore. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
I hate my baby daddy
Was a little late to cleaning today because I’m 4-5 fucking weeks pregnant and I decided to take a shower. Somthing thats literally impossible with a toddler. I managed to get a little done but it wasn’t perfect. Sure. I decide to take my 2 year old for a walk and we notice her dad is home. At first I was going to let her walk and take her to the park but she missed her dad today so I decided to let her see him. Her dad gestures to the top of her head that has a bandaid (she likes to play with them, she’s 2). He’s visibly annoyed and he shuts his car off. He tells me to go back to the apartment (no hello or anything while my daughter is really happy to see him) and I say I was taking her to the park. Usually my daughter likes to walk around and play and it gets her energy out and helps her to sleep. He wants her to immediately go to the park and doesn’t let her explore even a little bit. When we get there, she’s barely there 10 minutes before hes telling us to go home. He tells me not to play a game with her (i tickle her back while singing the itsy bitsy spider) and he yells at our daughter to climb the stairs to our apartment. She starts crying and is upset, so I put her to sleep. He then starts cleaning and is making a lot of noise. Obviously he’s irritated. He comes into the room and says he’s throwing away everything he sees, and he throws away some of my things and a lot of my daughters toys. I’m in the middle of putting my daughter to sleep, but he tells me “if I want anything I better get it from him before he throws it away”. Mind you, my child is on top of me taking her first nap of the day. I’m so upset, I’m trying not to cry too loud but I’m so sick of this shit. Literally from the minute he saw me and my daughter he was annoyed. I know I’m not doing my best but this pregnancy on top of having a toddler is draining. I hate this. I dont know why I wanted a second kid with him
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