Im thinking of leaving my babies dad but my mum says Im throwing a tantrum

I think you feelings are completely valid, as for advice I don’t really have any, but it’s okay to feel the way you do, don’t let your mum make you think your doing something wrong

The fact your mum sent you back home breaks my heart. She should be a shoulder for you to cry on, not push you away. It sounds like you know what’s the right decision, you’re unhappy, and that’s only ever going to rub off on the happiness of your children. Be brave, I hope you have more people to support you Xx

Is there a possibility it’s tiredness and this will get better

I left at 6 months pregnant. 110% much happier. It really is so hard being torn between the 2. I hope you’re ok 💗

during pregnancy he was amazing but i am so exhausted and he must be too. I wouldn’t even know where to start

Maybe a good night sleep for you both OP? Maybe you're mum could have bub overnight and give you both a break. It will show you how you are, with a bit better sleep if she or a friend can help. Or you go to a hotel for a night and then he does and you regroup both better rested.

Do you think your mum doesn't want you leaving because it's more about her? Like she's worried you want to move in with the baby and it's more selfishly motivated?

I'm sorry, do you have some one else you can support you in this time?

I will say that the first year is brutal, and maybe it's salvageable if there's good stuff there under the sleep deprivation.
But calling you a peasant because of wage despairity is nasty. The competitive woe is my, I've got it worse, needs to stop he needs to be kinder to you when you feel rubbish and vice versa. (I'm not saying your not). I think you both need a break and to really talk.

That all being my relationship broken down just after one, and I'm almost 8 years on, and so much happier.

Trust your gut 💟🙏🏻

I think taking a break away from baby will help.
I also do think i could be more witty with things he says.

Oooh you can! Sometimes making people thing about what they say by your response and take the emotions out if it at the same time OP
Humour is my go-to.

Iv got from this that maybe I need my spark back.
I feel like I’m taking him way too seriously and causing arguments because I’m struggling with my new life and identity.
this wasn’t what I thought I would find here .
This is why we always need other mums in our corner. thankyou ladies