Please tell me it’s not just me?

At 19 months I’m still getting naff all done around the house when my daughter’s around.
I’m not asking to clean the whole house from top to bottom but I’m really struggling to do even the simplest jobs.

I love my daughter’s but she kicks off the moment she doesn’t have my undivided attention. I just can’t handle the upset all the time so I end up just playing with her.

Feel like such a push over and also a little bit claustrophobic.

I’m not looking for tips or advice because trust me I’ve tried every trick in the book to help her to play independently. And I’ve even fallen for WAY more screen time than I’m happy giving 😞😞😞

Just hoping there’s others out there still living like they’re in the newborn trenches???

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Have you thought about a baby carrier so she can stay close but you can get stuff done?

Not just for tiny babies.

I try to get as much done as I can when my children nap otherwise it’s just chaos. However, I get the most done when my 3 month old naps and my daughter is at nursery or grandmas house because otherwise if it’s not one it’s the other wanting my attention x

You could try a baby carrier, a playpen (might be a bit old for that) or one of them towers for if you’re in the kitchen doing jobs.

I got the toddler tower and I was hoping for great things but she just uses it to try climb onto the work surfaces (which she obviously can’t and gets angry) Im hoping it’ll come in more use the older she gets and when she understands what it’s for so she can watch me in the kitchen 🤞

The carriers an interesting one because I used it loads a loved it but now she associates it with going outside and thinks everytime I put her in it when inside that we’re off out for a walk and gets hysterical if we don’t at least do a walk around the garden 😣

I appreciate the suggestions though. As I say I’ve tried it all 🙈🙈😞😞

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Does your husband do enough around the house?

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MIL

So my friends mil is really nasty. She constantly tells her son that he shouldn't be with my friend, told her son not to have another baby with my friend as she is only after the money, told her son my friend is only nice to her face. They didn't go to church on Sunday and the mother phoned her son and said how dare he not go. Bare in mind her son is in his late forties. She is 80 odd. She is very controlling and constantly stabs my friend in the back. What should she do. Any advice welcome.

The mother in law doesn't like cats, my friend absolutely loves them. They won't tell her they got a cat because she will go mad.

I think it's absolutely ridiculous that she is trying to control her son.

Eating dinner together..

I think my 2 year old would really benefit from eating with us at the table. I know it’s not required for all kiddos but I think it would help.

I just can’t work out how to get dinner on for 5/530 for everyone.

He largely eats toddler type dinners that I can often throw together quickly. I just can’t work out how to make adult / toddler dinner ready for 5/530 when I’m technically working from home till 5.

I do have some flexibility to chuck things together while I’m at home and of course could meal prep but I’m quite overwhelmed.

Anxious thought

One of my many anxious thoughts but what would you do if your car broke down on a busy road- with a toddler and baby. Who do you get out first?
Would have to be the toddler (nearly 3) first, then baby… else I’d have no hands to unclip the toddler. But then where do you put the toddler.
Please tell me everyone has these scenarios running through their head🥲

I just saw a video of a car broken down on a smart motorway, so they were half in a lane. How do you get your children out then?! I hate that I overthink everything.

Nursery

How far in advance to look at nurseries?

Weaning

Hey my boy is now nearly 7 months and I have no clue what I’m doing with weaning and giving him food. He does have porridge in the mornings most days but just stuck on what to do next. Any advice would be appreciated x