Insane MIL hacks?!?

My 6m old just got his shots today… he has painful knots on his legs, and was kind of inconsolable. My husband and I worked as a team to settle him down. While getting his medicine (motrin) and a cold wash cloth with ice in it to massage the knots. Please tell me why she comes to my husband and I with tylenol lidocaine and tells me to put it on his knots?!?! UHM?!! We told her no, he’s too young plus he has sensitive skin. We got this. She kept trying to push back on it, then sits it on the counter and says when what we do doesn’t work, then it’s there to use. Then continue to say she wouldn’t do anything to hurt baby boy. Then when she heard him crying from the compress, she says “seems like it’s not working.” We ignored her but it aggravated the soul out of me…

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I’m already upset that my baby is in pain… now i’m upset and angry ughhhh

Honestly they’ve been parents before and u like her son…seems like she knows a bit. I used to be hesitant but my mil knows quite a lot

My mum gives me crazy tips all the time but it’s how it used to be back then & we survived. She’s just trying to help even though it sounds crazy. My mum told me to give my baby sugar and water to help him go to the toilet & I thought no way but then a health visitor said the same thing to me. It just depends on the person to what they choose & choose not to do with their child

In the UK they advice paracetamol after shots if baby is not feeling well (Tylenol is paracetamol)
And lidocaine - as long as not consistent use and baby older than 5 months - should be ok

But I also hate when MiL gives advice 🫠 do your own research and decide for yourself what is best for your child!

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