Mom walks

Any mom live by Talize area what to meet up and do nightly walks.

in our community

I’m not okay!!!

A month ago my man had a stroke. I am overwhelmed and fed up by taking care of him and the 2 kids all on my own. He won’t let me have family over so I can have help. I don’t know if I can handle this. Am I a bad person?

Child caregiver concerns

I don’t know if I’m being paranoid, but I have concerns about my nanny, who works for us 20 hours a week, and I’m not sure if I should ask her to stop.

1. She sometimes ignores my instructions regarding feeding (e.g., not burping the baby twice during feeds, even though the doctor advised this for his reflux), not doing leg exercises as requested and she does when baby is straining.
2. She ignored me twice when I said I wanted to bathe the baby (she only does it once a week).
3. Before we hired her, she said she enjoys cooking, but now she seems reluctant every time she has to cook for us.
4. She wants to take days off whenever she chooses and get paid more than half in cash and the rest with invoice.
5. She often asks to come with me wherever I go, even though I decline.
6. She arrives late after dropping off her child, although she says she will make up the time later and does stay longer on Fridays.
7. She avoids doing certain household tasks (e.g., she has never taken out the nappy bin or clean the nursery)
8. She mentioned she used to attend social events with children of other families and has suggested that now the weather is warmer, we could go to the park with the baby.
9. She has become too personal- she comments on my some of my clothes and accessories, and since I’ve travelled a lot, I sometimes feel she may be envious.

I don’t want her to attend mum-and-baby events with me, as I don’t need her in that context. I need someone to help me care for the baby, not a companion or entertainer.

I don’t trust her anymore. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Snack ideas?

Can anyone give me any snack ideas that is not fruit? 🫣 my baby needs to start having a couple of snacks a day now but she already has fruit with her meals, so I wanted to avoid it for snacks - I know it’s natural sugars but still, feels like a lot of sugar in one day

Desperate help

Hi girls, I’m in DESPERATE NEED FOR HELP.

My boy is 3 in July and god I’ve never known him to be so naughty.

I get terrible 2’s but i thought he already went through all of that.

Not listening.
Hitting/ kicking me.
Throwing things at me.
Charging at me.

He’s now decided to wake up multiple times in the middle of the night absolutely screaming like somethings happened.

I’ve tried so many things but nothing seems to be working, he’s just getting worse each day but with other people,
‘he’s been good as gold’

Is it just me that’s the problem??

Boundaries

I recently gave birth via an emergency C-section after being induced, and I honestly haven’t been able to stop replaying the whole experience in my head. Baby is okay thankfully, but it was a lot.

I was discharged, came home, and within an hour my MIL showed up unannounced with her mum and sister. I hadn’t even had a chance to shower, baby hadn’t settled, and they were passing her around without even washing their hands. No one really checked on me either. I’d literally just had surgery and come home from hospital. While I went to the loo, they were also taking pictures of my baby and circulating them among themselves, which really didn’t sit right with me.

Then a few days later (baby was only 6 days old), my husband’s whole family showed up unannounced again while baby was under phototherapy and I was breastfeeding. It felt like such an invasion of privacy. Baby was being passed around, everyone giving advice I didn’t ask for, and again barely anyone asking how I’m actually doing. My mil’s sister from the previous visit walks in and starts mingling with the other unannounced guests and finally looks at my me and says “oh I didn’t even see you”.

And now that same sister has messaged asking to come over with HER sister-in-law… who I don’t even know.

I completely understand everyone is excited, but I feel really overwhelmed, exposed, and honestly a bit disregarded. I’m trying to recover, establish breastfeeding, and just bond with my baby, and it feels like I haven’t had a moment to breathe.

I’m now trying to set boundaries like no unannounced visits and keeping it to immediate family for now, but it’s hard and I feel guilty even though I know I shouldn’t.

I feel like I’m slowly losing it with them and just needed a place to vent.

My fiancée is pissing me off recently

So I want to start by saying I love him very much but… he was down on his money for like 2 years. And recently he got a raise and overtime that finally makes it so he makes more than me. The reason I am upset is because I have pay his phone bill, I pay part of the car payment and I pay for the child care by myself. Now that he is making money he makes me feel like I’m begging for help now or I am just being bad with money even though I have been carrying this by myself and never said much. The other day he tried to tell me not to buy a coffee because we should be saving and then when I asked for his half of the phone bill he got upset. Now he is saying he was not mad about me asking but because he was about to do it. But I feel like he is saying that because I made him feel bad because I feel like he sees my money as ours and his money as his