Kink? Sexxx, what do I do

I’m interested in watching my husband pleasure and be pleasured by another woman in a purely physical way. I’m not interested in being “cheated on.” No flirty texts, no unsanctioned coffee dates. Mentally/sexually it arouses me the thought of him having his d succcked, I guess because I see how he looks when he climaxes because of me getting down on him and that control over him turns me on. He has never brought this topic up or anything. Unsure what to do. We’ve always been monogamous and never opened to anything other than with each other.

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It's a dangerous bridge to cross. There's no going back. I would keep it as a fantasy. Use mirror play when together. Or watch him by himself or using a man toy.

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The most difficult thing to do is bring another party into a relationship without adding feelings. If you truly want to do this I’d say do it with a service, that way you know it’s business only, you handle all the transactions etc. but also be prepared if he enjoys it thoroughly he may want it more often, if you’re ok with that.

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Send me a message directly if you like. It’s a hard topic to speak openly about

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Did I make a mistake.

I am 37 years old and I have an 18 month old boy and have been with the father of my child for almost 6 years. The relationship has never 100% been respectful as he has cheated multiple times, called me out of my name, etc. I found out he cheated then found out I was pregnant. I wanted to keep my family together and for our son to have an active parent. So I stayed

Pregnancy and postpartum was hard. He wasn’t working a steady job and I had to back to work very quickly to keep our income. Eventually he got a job and we were able to move into our own place. But we have not been intimate since the baby was conceived. Don’t get my wrong I sick him off when he needs it but that’s about it.

I’m the primary parent. Bathtime. Dropping and picking baby up. Packing bag. Making appointments. Soothing. EVERYTHING. he does change diapers sometimes but when I ask for help it’s like pulling teeth.

He gets angry and snaps at me or the baby “am I raising a boy or girl” when the baby is whining or something. Making me feel wrong for having any feelings outside of happiness.

Because of the disrespect and what I feel is emotional abuse. I decided to break up with him. In my head I know it was the right decision. I know I am grieving what could have been. But my heart is still breaking. I don’t know what my life looks like without this person whose been in my life for 6 years. I never wanted to raise a child by myself even though I know its possible. Starting for scratch at this age is daunting. And he already talking about getting a lawyer.

We have to stay in the same house because there’s 2 months on our lease and he says he will continue to provide the rent but he might leave the state. Which I already planned on doing to be closer to family. But I feel like I’ve ruined my family and my son is going to hate me.

Did I make a mistake? I know I didn’t but my heart says otherwise. Thank you for letting me vent.

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Hello all, just wondering if anyone knows. I'm a stay at home mum for my little one due to the extortionate childcare fees and not finding a job that would cover even half a day. If I got pregnant with a second child, would I still get the government maternity pay? Or because I'm not in a job, would I not get anything? Whilst I'm not pregnant now, I'm just stressing about the future because we do want more children...

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Anybody else felt like this in pregnancy, is it normal or am I just being sensitive rn?

Hey y’all anybody else feeling like this?
Im still early in pregnancy but ofc already thinking about gender reveals, baby showers,shopping etc…
Feeling a little sad that I don’t have any friends nearby or to share experiences.
my friends live long distance and majority are in a total different phase of life whereas I’ve wanted this for so long after a long IVF journey and many losses. I’m finding it tough not having anybody to relate to or talk about pregnancy journey or even feeling like I won’t be able to have the celebration most people have! Anybody else ?

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All I know is work been doing so since I was 15, now I’m pregnant with my second and expenses are crazy.

Are you a sahm but still generating an income? How!? What options are there? Are you posting content?

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