Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

I’m not ok…

I’m one week postpartum and I’m not ok.
I’ve been crying for days now.
I have so much on my plate rn.
I’m just mentally not ok. I wanna do what’s best for my boys but it seems like to everyone else I’m not doing enough. I feel guilty cuz my twins are in NICU. I’m on leave from my job with no pay. I know my house is a mess since I was in the hospital for almost 3 months. Trying to find somewhere to live to as there is no space in my apartment anymore. Trying to find a work from home job so I can be with my babies. I also have BPD which is not helping at all…
I just…
I’m just not ok and just keep it to myself.

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I’m sorry, momma. I feel it, too. The stress. It’s a lot. The postpartum days are rough. It does get better. It will get better. Some say, somehow, we figure it out and we keep going.

I’m 2 and a bit months postpartum with our 3rd. And I’m in the thick of it, too.

Sending you sooo much love, some hugs and reminders that it will be okay. It can’t last like this forever.

If you need an ear to vent, message me. You don’t have to do it alone. 🩶 you are loved and valued.

One thing at a time mama when you find yourself trying to do everything at once at a quick pace your going to overwhelm yourself and forget what everyone else think as long as you know that you doing what you have to do for you and yours boys a lot of times we stress ourselves out trying to meet other people outlook that you don’t even notice you weighing yourself down it’s okay not to be okay sometimes times allow yourself to feel the emotions then pick yourself right back up one step at a time girlie and deep breaths you got it okay ❤️

Your body has been through so much, hormones are raging and it sounds like there’s just so much going on around you, it would be crazier for you to not be feeling this way!
Take things slowly and give yourself some grace, do one small task a day to help with the house (when and if you can) and if you can get some family/friend help in, do!
There’s no way people will want you feeling like this so make sure to reach out and if you need a little medical help to deal with anything a little more sinister pp don’t be afraid to get it ❤️

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Riddle me this…

Has your child or children ever came home from school/ Daycare saying new phrases that they HAD to have learned over there????

For example : my son was playing and he shouts ‘NOT On MY WATCH!’ -randomly.

It was hilarious bc I know exactly which teacher talks like this

LAUNDRY!

What laundry detergent is everyone using for their newborns??

Sleep consultants- are they actually worth it?

For anyone who has had a sleep consultant to help with your babies sleep, I want honest opinions are they actually worth it, or are they a waste of money? I’ve seen that it works for some mamas but then not so much for others but I am really at a loss where to go next and what to do. My 14 month old has never been a great sleeper and if anything we are just constantly going backwards rather than forwards and it’s honestly killing me. It’s affecting my mental/work/physical health. I’m a single mum too so I’m the one who’s surviving on constant broken sleep.

I don’t want to do any harsh methods like cry it out or the Ferber method, so do I get a sleep consultant? I’d love to hear other people’s stories who’s had one and did it honestly help them?

Hating every bit of newborn and pp

Don’t judge me.

FTM and I’m finding it too difficult to adjust to this newborn and pp phase. I am in constant anxiety about producing enough breast milk for her. I rush her back to sleep and in constant awareness that she’ll wake up and ask feeds. I’m also using 1-2 feeds of formula milk. Breastfeeds has become an anxious task for me and I’m not enjoying the baby.

I hope this phase is temporary and it will pass. Currently 2.5 weeks postpartum.

My baby won’t sleep in the next to me

Any tips/tricks? The second she gets in it she’s screaming. I’ve tried not moving my hands away until she’s settled but she instantly cries. I’ve tried waiting until she’s a sleep and then transferring her but she knowwssss.

She’ll sleep lovely anywhere else. Do I accept defeat and order a Moses basket?

How do you handle playdates at other peoples house ?

Recently became good friends with a neighbor her daughter is a little over 2.5 years old and mine is a little over 1.5 years old. When we go over she sometimes plays videos which is fine but I really try to be mindful what I play for my daughter. For example she plays a lot of those annoying YouTube videos like baby shark etc. and idk how to tell her to turn it off or change it?? I just kept asking what else she likes to watch 😂 but also her daughter is on a completely different sleep schedule than mine. Her daughter doesn’t sleep till like 2am and will nap at like 5 or 6pm so she’s not up in the mornings and when we are and we end up playing later which means her daughter slips her nap or just takes it when we leave at like 8pm. But I feel bad cause she will cook but it won’t be done until late and then my daughter goes to bed late which I really hate.. but I don’t want to be rude when she’s cooking for us and inviting us 🤦‍♀️ idk am I overreacting?