Should i put my bd on Child support

So my bd is a trucker and gets paid every wed he just got the job in March 2026 and I helped him fill out apps and updated his resume so now hes left my house in and he still dont help at all with the baby, I always forgive him but I feel bad for him but his problems r not mines,I think I shoukd put him on cs he didnt even come to the hospital out baby is a nice preemie, he always in my pockets and he dont take care of any of his kids but I feel bad because he was trying to get him a apt, a better paying job and he finally got a car hes 41 im 33 and its just I feel awful cause I havw brothers but they are real men and I seem like an bitter because I dont want me but he used me and its about the baby and I need help plus he did hurt my feelings

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He should be paying child support! It’s not you being bitter! It’s you standing up for your kid and what is theirs

Bitter? No.
Smart decision for you and your child? Better ask a lawyer about your rights and his rights first.

If you were not married, it’s not always in the best interest of the mother and child to petition for financial support.

Thank you ladies and sorry for typos I was driving trying deal with my emotions but yes im thinking of my child future like im moving into bigger home and making the changes for myself and my baby but I dont ti seem bitter because I knew he wasn't no help but he lied about who he was so yeah thanks its about my child and no not married but im thr one more stable and since I cant work fulltime im asking for physical help but he says he works all day and dont wnat to come over when jm saying crazy things to him but yes ill look up my rights so I'm covered. Thanks for the not being rude im dealing. With pp so I want to make sure my choices are logical not emotional .

Im going on my own experience and say go for child support. It takes 2 to make a baby and so he should take responsibility for the baby. You're not being bitter. I didnt go for child support for my kids with my bd simply because I knew he couldnt do it (he doesn't have a job) but it is a struggle and a half. I would contact a lawyer and go through all of the rights for you and your baby to get what is best support for the both of you

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I’m just in the position where I just don’t know what to do anymore there are a couple of problems going on and it’s getting to much for me to handle

1. Me and my baby dad are in a relationship he goes to work 40+ hours a week and I’m a stay at home I am grateful for that but I do wish I could have some free time away from my daughter and be working as well as making more money. My partner doesn’t help pay for anything for my daughter or for me. Including being able to and do stuff. Plus after work and the weekends he’s really tired so we don’t ever do anything as a family. I’m struggling with the amount of money I get off universal credit.

2 He has got a good job and has worked there for 5 years ish I think but recently they have added a women to the workplace and ever since he has been a bit off and he enjoys going to the pub with her and his boss. I’m not included anyone when it comes to going out with the work lot and I do think it has something to do with her? I don’t know if I’m just a massive over thinker but he just falls out with me whenever we talk about it. Sex life what the hell even is sex that’s what it has turned into we don’t cuddle and we don’t ever kiss. He goes to work comes back I put my daughter to bed I make his tea then he rolls over and goes to sleep

3 He never lets me look at his phone. The other day when he was asleep his phone received a message and I looked over and as soon as I had moved he put his hand over his phone just so I couldn’t see. Which I think is being secretive

4 every time we have an argument he turns his location off which I think he must be doing something and then when I ask for it to be turned back on he says it’s gone forever I have lost it.

5 i feel I am being over dramatic but also not at the same time. I’ve struggled with post natal depression since my daughter was born and still on the anti depression medication

Is there anyone on here that has dpd as I think I might have this disorder and wondering if I should talk to the doctors about everything. I am at the point where if someone asks if I’m okay I just burst out into tears and unable to talk. If you’ve managed to read up to here thank you and I just want someone else’s opinion and what i should do

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Annoyingly if I was able to go to my due date it would’ve worked out that he got 2 weeks of then 8 days back at work before a almost 4 week holiday 🤦🏼‍♀️ but now the 4 week holidays going to be about 6 weeks after birth

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