Offended by Health Visitor
I’m a bit confused with what I should be doing with feeding my 9 month old (he just turned 9 months) He’s only gained 500g since 6 months old, he’s very very active. He’s crawling, standing up with support and started to stand without support, he’s walking with support (push walker, holding him or furniture) so he’s not tired or lethargic, he is a very healthy and energetic boy.
I was under the impression that at this age, the focus should be exposure to different foods and texture, focusing on chewing and overall just learning how to eat. And that their main nutrition still comes from breastmilk until they’re 1 year old.
I usually feed my son 3 meals a day, largest meal being lunch and a smaller meal for dinner to avoid belly pains at night. A typical meal would be a toast with nut butter for breakfast or porridge, meatballs/chicken with some sort of potatoes or salmon with rice or vegetables. Dinner would be something small like corn or hummus with bread. He’s still feeding before meals as we were told to feed before meals. He’s breastfed and I’m breastfeeding on demand which feels like consistently throughout to the day!
I had a weigh in appointment this morning with the HV and she was very judgmental — she asked me what solids I give my son and when I explained to her, she immediately said “why are you not feeding him?” Which was honestly so heartbreaking to hear because I’m doing my best to make sure I feed my son correctly (he’s allergic to cow’s milk and egg so I go out my way to prepare his food)
Anyways, sorry for the rant! I guess I just want to know what I should be doing — and if I’m doing anything wrong? I’d love to have any advice.
Tired of the sexist bullshit
I live with my sons paternal grandfather. He doesnt want me to work and he doesnt want to drive me to work and he thinks my sons dad would be "babysitting" if he watches our son. Even if I get my license or get an uber im sure he will still try to come up with some other reason to tell me to stop working. I can't take it anymore. He also does a lot of other things that bother me.
He films me obsessively without consent (he did the same thing to my husbands exs), he does it at home and in public and even at my sons doctor appointments.
He spanked my child, he thinks women shouldn't work, he is offended if i buy something with my own money without him knowing, he rubbed my hair with a towel. He makes innapropriate comments to me such as "honey im home", "Where are we going now hun?", "i am a piss poor driver" "your husband is pussy whipped" "are you gonna have another one?" (Asking me if i will have another baby with a creepy look on his face. The way he said it and the way he looked at me when he said it didn't sit right with me.) He also got mad when I told him to stop filming me. He also tries to look at my phone screen a lot. Ive had times where he would try to look at my screen and ask me "what are you reading?" And ive had times where he would ask me who I am calling if he hears me on a phone call. He also gives me a mean look whenever I use my phone. Its almost like he thinks I am not allowed to use my phone at all even though he is the one filming me all the time. My entire nervous system feels nervous everytime he is around me. He pretends to care about me when he actually just wants to control me. I think he is a creep and I also think he is sexist.
