Mentally struggling

My husband and I have hit a rough patch. We have a 4 month old baby and things have just been hard. We got into a bad argument the other night and I mentioned to him the next day when we were discussing it that he was about to lose his wife. He said “I’ll never lose my wife.” That’s where it hit me. He knows I’ll never leave. He knows in order for me to actually leave he has to do something against my children or cheat/beat on me. He knows I’m extremely forgiving with everything else. He knows my love for him has no limits. It has me truly thinking. I don’t necessarily want to put that fear into him, but I want him to know he better act right or he can lose me. Then again who am I fooling? I’ll never leave this man. He’ll never leave me. How do I get him to realize some of his actions are not acceptable in my book. He does what he wants again because he knows I won’t leave, and I won’t leave.. so is there another way?

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Treat him like a child, consequences to actions

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Hm. Welp. Kind of depends on the issues between you guys. But, blanket consequence is usually no more extra interest in his days. If he doesn’t care about yours, idk about his, ya know? Not really tit for tat, more like see how it feels. So when he asks what’s wrong or why you’re quiet. Oh I just didn’t feel the need to put in effort. Or you’ve pushed me to the point of just don’t care. And don’t expand let him grovel. I would say he deserves some fear if he’s going to use that against you like a threat back that he can do whatever he wants.

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