Wedding dilemma

Looking for some advice/ thoughts on a wedding my husband and I have been invited to as I feel like I’m losing my mind over it.

One of my husbands close friends is getting married October 3rd. Our second baby is due September 17th- this would make them 2 weeks old at the time of the wedding- if they come on time which as we all know babies have their own timeline. Last time we spoke with the friend and his fiancée they hadn’t decided if they were having children to the wedding or not and even so I’m not sure I want to attend a wedding 2 weeks PP with a 2 year old and 2 week old!

My husband has said he is absolutely not missing this wedding.

Other issue is that last year I found out my husband had been having an emotional affair with a co-worker. They kissed once drunk at a party and then continued messaging for 6 months afterwards, I have spoken to both and they swore they were just good friends and the kiss was a one off. Shortly after finding out about all this I found out I was pregnant so have just chosen to believe it was what it was and I know it’s over now. My husband has also changed jobs since then so no longer has any contact with this woman. However, she will be at this wedding.

I just can’t imagine anything worse than being in the same room as my husbands fling in a fragile very recently postpartum state and also don’t believe a wedding is an appropriate place for a newborn. I guess I’m just looking for other people’s thoughts as I said my husband is not willing to budge and has said he will be going. 😫

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I just don’t want sex. HELP

I’m so baffled by what on earth is going on inside my brain/body right now.
I love my husband. I fancy him which is what’s also confusing me. But I’ve lost all interest in sex since having our son 18 months ago. The more time passes the worse I’m getting. Last night I could tell he was getting a bit touchy feeling so before we went to bed I ran into the bathroom and stuck a load of fake tan on so that I had an excuse as to why I couldn’t do it. I made my apologies and he looked really gutted. He never ever puts pressure on me or ever makes me feel guilty or pressurises me into it which also makes me feel guilty that I don’t sometimes just do it. When we’re doing it it always feels really good. So I’ve no idea why that spark hasn’t lit back up for me.

I am tired and I think I had ppd and anxiety for a while (undiagnosed). But things have felt better and lighter for a while now. The only thing that isn’t back to normal is our sex life. But sex literally never ever crosses my mind. It’s like I’ve gone numb to those desires and it’s out of sight, out of mind. We can go weeks or we probably can do it once a month.

I’m a bit embarrassed to chat to my friends about this.

It all worth it

Through all the stress, exhaustion, worry, his sweet smile makes it all worthwhile!

If you are a sahm, do you think your partner TRULY understands everything you do at home?

Before becoming a sahm I 100000% misunderstood what it meant and what it took. Now that I’m one I feel very overlooked & drained basically every day. So with that said, I MISS having a career :(.

When is everyone returning back to work?

When is everyone returning back to work? And if so are you going back to full time or part time? How many days and how do you request for flexibility working hours?

Are the women in this group just physically incapable of being kind?

So much argumentative and judgemental commenting.
Over-opinionated to the point of being just plain nasty and provocative.

We miss him

Guys my partner works overnights 12-16hr shifts, he’s been on mandatory OT for the span of a month. Before that he was helping a coworker out and they switched schedules for 2weeks, which made his days off be spilt so we didn’t get much time with him before it was mandatory..

I know there’s people who have it worse and never see their person or don’t even have a person. But I just have to take a moment to complain

Within this last month 18 people have been on “injury” leave, 3 more just went on “injury” tonight. One of these mfs hurt his back pulling up his freezer overalls AFTER TAKING A SHIT!

The mando OT is to make up for those people on leave right? They can’t do any hiring to fill in for them because they technically have a full staff, they just all have job security while being on leave 😭

I hate it, me and my daughter miss our guy.. I’m pregnant again and he just hasn’t been able to really be here with us. He tries while he’s home but he’s soo tired..
Yes we know a job is a choice and the $$ is of course great but dam man