Rant/vent. Pic of what I almost posted today.
I almost posted this today and honestly still debating on if I should. My ride or die, would be gay for, bestie of a lifetime, and is supposed to be the god mom to my daughter. Hasn’t spoken to me since the day my daughter was born because she doesn’t like my daughter’s father. Him and I went through a rough patch during my pregnancy. He has ptsd and shut down for basically my entire pregnancy. He admitted that he made a mistake and is/has been working on himself to be better. She put me in the position of it’s her or him. I made it a point that if he wanted to have a relationship with our daughter I am going to give him that chance to have one with our daughter. He has made huge progress and I still love him even if what he did wasn’t ok. My other set of people I wanted as god parents also haven’t talked me to because they weren’t informed on when I went into labor. They found out when I announced to everyone that I had my daughter and they got upset because they didn’t get a private message. Baby daddy was about to send a message but I hit send first. I’m just so overwhelmed and tired.
Yes my PPD is under control, yes my daughter and I are safe, yes I have the support of my baby daddy - his family - and my family, I’m just over people who think they know what’s best for my child even though they’ve not bothered to talk to me or see her.
Advice on how to deal with my best friend?
She’s on a very low wage, and keeps saying she wants a new job and wants to better herself, so I send her jobs with training opportunities, and she gets excited and applies for them, but gets nowhere because she uses AI for the applications, despite it explicitly saying they won’t accept them. She doesn’t even edit the AI output, just copy and pastes it. I don’t understand why she keeps doing this, it just seems to be a waste of her time.
I send her jobs with that require travelling up to an hour to get to work, but she won’t do it and will only apply for jobs that are walking distance from her house, which I feel is unrealistic.
With men, she’s miserable and only chooses men who use her as a sex doll and gets upset by this. She’s not stupid, but for some reason over looks clear signs she’s being disrespected or used. She so beautiful and lovely as a person, so caring, but no man takes her seriously. Her current boyfriend is in prison and will be for the next 4 years at least, even he doesn’t treat her right or make any effort despite being locked up all day with no one to talk to. I’m not understanding why she puts herself in this position because these men make her feel really low about herself.
Drugs, she is a recreational user but has recently begun having seizures as a consequence. She had a few episodes recently where she’s woken up covered in blood after biting her tongue during what appears to be a seizure, but won’t stop and won’t go to the doctors.
She sent me a voice message a few days ago and sounds so low, she recently was rejected from another job, her prison boyfriend seems to have ghosted her and her life just seems to be spiralling. I’ve reached out but she hasn’t responded, and I don’t know how to support her or why she can’t get her life together. We’ve both had trauma in our lives and struggled as result, but for some reason, we going in opposite directions and I feel like I’m losing her and I’m going to get a call one day that’s she’s died.
Any advice on deal with a person like this. TIA
School and SEND
I know this post may be controversial but I'm looking for open discussion not arguments please. This is not meant to criticise.
I seen this today on FB and as a teacher (over 20 years) I have taught children with varying SEN needs over the years. Some have needed different planning and resources, some 1:1 support, some part in school, part in PRUs.
However, there has been a rise in SEN diagnosis over the years and alongside this huge cuts to support - meaning sometimes you will have numerous pupils who have different needs that clash. In one tiny classroom. Often with little to no support.
I'm curious as to what people think would be the answer(s) ? Obviously, you can't say that every SEN child would be better off in a specialist school as that simply isn't true.
I see many parents of SEN children (influencers on FB) saying school is just not fit for purpose and teachers need to adapt their classroom and teaching for their child. Which is true, and every parents needs to advocate for their child, but with 1 teacher to 30+ children, no lesson or teaching style or technique is ever going to be perfect for all of those every single time. You can do your best to follow the EHCP and implement. So what would you change to ensure inclusion?
Would it be to reduce class sizes? Overhaul the curriculum?
Remove testing?
Flexible timetable?
More adult support (TAs)
More specialist support (e.g learning mentors, child psychologists)
Train teachers more - often we have done a couple of days worth of training on specific needs - if that. Also, I find a lot of the training is about the need , not how to support the child in real life situations like the post details here
I don't know if people know the reality of what schools are like in the UK now. Teachers have been trying to fight these cuts for year and the media just pits us against parents telling them strikes are about pay.
And now some children (and parents) are at more than crisis point because they're not getting the support they need.
Am I a bad SAHM for not taking my toddler out every day?
I constantly feel guilty for not doing daily outings with my toddler and spending more time at home. My neighbour makes me feel bad about it and has threatened to call cps. We have quiet mornings not to bother anyone. This generally includes numbers, colours, puzzles, sorting, crafts, etc. Then independent play so I can eat. He also has a toddler gym where he can climb and the noisier toys for later in the day. I spend a lot of time meal prepping. I'm also doing all the cleaning inside the house amongst other indoor tasks. I try to finish quickly or do everything in one day to have a walk after breakfast and a trip to the park after nap time the next day, but I get tired sometimes. We do go out every weekend to socialize and do family outings, but i generally aim for 3-4 hrs outside from Monday to Friday, although some weeks may be less. I'm wondering if I really am in the wrong here. Pls help !
