On edge

Does she have sibling and when do you notice the tantrums the most ?.

I know this may not be the answer you're looking for, but if she's having issues regulating her emotions (beyond normal toddler emotional challenges) and it's also affecting your mental health this deeply, maybe some behavioral counseling would be helpful for both of you. I know that's not always feasible depending on your circumstances, but if you have insurance that covers something like that or can find some community resources, it may be worth a look. Sending you lots of love and support 💕

I think I have ppd that never went away, as I’m a single mum, she’s not in nursery as I can’t afford it right now .
I deal with her everyday alone I’ve never been away from here I never have a break her
I just cry constantly and I know it sounds stupid but when I go out and I see other children so well behaved I just feel depressed because I don’t think I’ve done anything to cause this

Im sorry you're going through this
I recently read something that explained if tantrums don't naturally subside quickly then there could be something more going on
Just food for thought 💗

You are not doing anything wrong, and your child is not unhappy because of you. 6 hours of screaming is a sensory nightmare, anyone would feel overwhelmed, depressed, and in fight-or-flight.

A few survival tips that could help for right now:

- Loop earplugs/headphones: This helps me so much when my baby screams non-stop testing their voice range or when I’m overwhelmed. It lowers the volume so your nervous system can breathe, but you can still safely supervise.
- Lower the bar: Skip going out. Stay home in a safe space where you don’t have to mask.
- Check for pain: Since it starts at wakeup, rule out silent triggers like molar pain or intolerances with a GP.
- Call in backup: Tell someone exactly how drowning you feel. You need a physical break from the noise to reset.

You are a good mum dealing with a brutally hard phase. Survival is the only goal right now. Sending you the biggest hug. ❤️

I know this may sound cruel but when she in the tantrum stage put her in a spot(couch, a chair) that will be the time out spot. Do not put her where she sleep because that is her safe space!
Put her in time out and let her scream it out tell her when she is done screaming and throwing her hit and apologizes she can get up. Make sure you stick to your word, she sees that you’re over it so she is going to do more. Make sure you’re getting down to her level eye to eye and acknowledging her.

It is very hard you just have to have patients and when you’re on your last leg it’s even harder.
Same thing in public she does it take her to the car and tell her she isn’t going back in till she is done..
Try doing activities with her to keep her busy and trying to sit still, she could possible have ADHD and that will cause a lot of this behavior..
When she does good praise her but don’t every time because then when she is good she’s going to expect something out of it every time.

Ah I see, I wish I knew the UK system better. And I'm so sorry your health team didn't help you, that's awful. Just know that feeling this frustrated doesn't mean you are not a bad mom - the fact that you came here looking for help shows that you care. I hope perhaps some others here can offer better suggestions and that you find some relief ❤️