Playground entitlement

Hi everyone,

I’d love to hear your perspective on something that happened a few mins earlier. I was at our little playground in our estate. I was using the large swing (the kind you lie on) with my baby. I had waited for a while for another mom & baby to be done with it, and when it became free, we got on and started relaxing.

A few minutes after we got on, another child (about 6 or 7yrs old) came over & stood right next to us. So I carried on interacting with my baby & ignored he was standing there. The mom was watching him from her window in their flat as I could hear someone shouting from a distance & he responded. Anyway, I ignored the noise & continued to enjoy the moment with my baby. We were just about to get off & she comes to me stomping with entitlement & said he’d been waiting for about 10 minutes and I should get off. I explained I was having a calm moment with my baby, and even though I was planning to get off soon, I felt pressured and decided to stay on a bit longer. Eventually, they left after her husband said something to her in their language.

I’m just wondering—if you were in my shoes, what would you have done? I just felt it ruined the moment for us but I tried to keep calm for my baby as the aim was to make it enjoyable for both of us.

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Everyone is entitled to have their own time on equipment. It's not like you were just sat there on your phone, not using it for its purpose. I think it's easy to feel pressured in those situations but it's so important for children to also learn to wait and share (understanding that sharing does not necessarily happen immediately). I think the only thing I'd change in your situation is that I would have communicated with the child, told them we hadn't been on long and that we would be x minutes. Whilst they won't necessarily understand minutes, it's acknowledgement that they will still get a turn ☺️

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