Am I a bad mom for this?
Lately, my sex life with my partner is the best its ever been. I’ve been begging him for more, and honestly I kinda feel like a dog in heat. I’m craving it all day, its all I can think about, I just want him deep inside me at all times. He thinks its kinda funny that I’m like this all of a sudden but its driving me crazy! We’ve had some very primal sex recently and I think its unleashed something in me. But the part that I’m questioning, is being naughty while the kids are awake/around. For example, I’m walking around with a butt plug in and its just normal lunch time for us. Is this wrong to do? Should I only do it after theyre in bed? Does it make me a bad mom? On any normal day the kids probably see their dad grabbing/groping me in some form(hes a very handsy affectionate- loves ass/boob grabs on me) but they havent seen more than that. Part of me feels guilty but part of me wants to embrace the fact I finally feel good/confident sexually.
how to deal with childless bsf giving unsolicited advice
I'm not confrontational nor conflictive at all, I hate to put boundaries as well. If it is for my baby is easy, but for me isn't.
My bsf is in a total different stage of life, and I don't know if it's bc I'm a young mom (we are both 22), but she's always giving me tips and advice of how to take care of my baby. She babysitted a 6mo ONCE and she thinks she knows more than me. I know she probably doesn't have bad intentions, and just want to help, but I'm so done with it.
Yesterday she said I need more time out with girlfriends, and that I should leave my baby (6 months) with his dad and go out for a drink. Again, I know she had good intentions, but 1. I get awfully anxious when I've been apart from my baby. 2. he co-sleeps with me, and will only fall asleep with my boob. 3. I think she's right about seeing my friends more, and getting out, but I'd love to be able to do so with my baby. He's so calm and social, and am of my friend love him and like to spend time with us, no one had asked me to leave him at home.
What should I do????
Thinking about separation
Since I was pregnant I started having second thoughts about my relationship with my partner. In my eyes he's changed, he wasn't there anymore for me, and I became anxious. I (well we) blamed it on the hormones, changes and all the financial and work stress. Well, now our kid is 15 months and I still having these worries, but somehow is even worse as I am more inclined now to just split up. I'm treating this on therapy, but my concern is about places I can refer to for help. I have a normal job, just getting paid a bit over minimum wage. We bought the house 2 years ago, so what is left on the mortgage is still a lot. We lived in a small village just outside Edinburgh, I have no friends or family here (I'm not from the UK), so I feel very lost and I don't know how to start this process on my own. I don't want to do anything impulsive, as I am still considering this step, that's why lawyers right now is not the first option as I would like to talk to someone who could help/guide women in this situation first.
